What is the name of your state? TN
I apologize beforehand if this isn't in the correct category. I am new to forums.
I have spent the last 20yrs. with the same man. He and I dated for 2 years, married back in 1988 and divorced in 1999. When we intially divorced I moved out of the home. After a 6 month seperation we decided to try and work things out and I moved back into the home. We do have a 12 yr. old daughter who in the divorce decree he was granted visitation and ordered to pay child support which he still pays even though we live together again. I get the money every week but return it back to him.
I am not happy in my situation and neither is he or my daughter. We have tired to make it work for her sake for many years but the unhappiness shows on all our faces. I want to end of good terms but he is making it somewhat hard. When we married I didn't have enough credit to be placed on the mortage loan so the loan was put in his name and his name only. I am however on the deed. I found that out today.
He told me if I left him that I wasn't entitled to anything but my personal belongings because my name was not on the loan. He told me he would give me $5,000 if I could be out in 3 days but yet he turns around and threatens me if I do want to leave. He told me tonight he would charge me with abandonment if I left. Can he do that? I just want to leave and it be peaceful. But I also don't feel I should walk away with nothing. I mean in the 20 yrs. we were together I invested just as much into the home as he did and truth be told, if I do indeed leave him he will have to sell the house because he won't be able to afford it on his salary. Generally he pays the mortage and I pay ALL the other bills including his truck pmt. He can hardly make the mortage payment let alone anything else. I truly don't want to see the house sold to someone else and I would love to be able to keep it and I could afford it. But this he will not hear of. He said he would rather see it sold as to see me get it.
Should I just walk away and start all over? I hope I don't sound like a golddigger or anything because I certainly am not. I would just like to keep the home my daughter was raised in. I don't care to walk away with nothing if I have to but part of me feels I deserve a lilttle more than that. Can I be charged with abandonment if I leave him? Again, we have been divorced since 1999. My ex is a good man but he is very vindictive and I feel part of him is only doing it to hurt me but I don't want to sit here and badmouth him either. That isn't why I am here. I am here to see if anyone can offer me some advice from a legal standpoint. I have an appt. with an attorney next week but I guess I would just like to know now.
Any advice is welcome. Thank You in advance.
Stephanie
I apologize beforehand if this isn't in the correct category. I am new to forums.
I have spent the last 20yrs. with the same man. He and I dated for 2 years, married back in 1988 and divorced in 1999. When we intially divorced I moved out of the home. After a 6 month seperation we decided to try and work things out and I moved back into the home. We do have a 12 yr. old daughter who in the divorce decree he was granted visitation and ordered to pay child support which he still pays even though we live together again. I get the money every week but return it back to him.
I am not happy in my situation and neither is he or my daughter. We have tired to make it work for her sake for many years but the unhappiness shows on all our faces. I want to end of good terms but he is making it somewhat hard. When we married I didn't have enough credit to be placed on the mortage loan so the loan was put in his name and his name only. I am however on the deed. I found that out today.
He told me if I left him that I wasn't entitled to anything but my personal belongings because my name was not on the loan. He told me he would give me $5,000 if I could be out in 3 days but yet he turns around and threatens me if I do want to leave. He told me tonight he would charge me with abandonment if I left. Can he do that? I just want to leave and it be peaceful. But I also don't feel I should walk away with nothing. I mean in the 20 yrs. we were together I invested just as much into the home as he did and truth be told, if I do indeed leave him he will have to sell the house because he won't be able to afford it on his salary. Generally he pays the mortage and I pay ALL the other bills including his truck pmt. He can hardly make the mortage payment let alone anything else. I truly don't want to see the house sold to someone else and I would love to be able to keep it and I could afford it. But this he will not hear of. He said he would rather see it sold as to see me get it.
Should I just walk away and start all over? I hope I don't sound like a golddigger or anything because I certainly am not. I would just like to keep the home my daughter was raised in. I don't care to walk away with nothing if I have to but part of me feels I deserve a lilttle more than that. Can I be charged with abandonment if I leave him? Again, we have been divorced since 1999. My ex is a good man but he is very vindictive and I feel part of him is only doing it to hurt me but I don't want to sit here and badmouth him either. That isn't why I am here. I am here to see if anyone can offer me some advice from a legal standpoint. I have an appt. with an attorney next week but I guess I would just like to know now.
Any advice is welcome. Thank You in advance.
Stephanie