Hi. I'm in New York State. We've been married for 3 years, and it's been hell. I have kids from a prev marriage, so I pay support. My wife takes home double what I do, and she has all of our money in her acct (we have no joint acct). I was using almost all of my salary to pay all of the bills until about two months ago; now we split costs. I just want out, but she has threatened to fight me tooth and nail if I file. She says she will eventually file, but it's already been three months since we decided to split. I have three options: a) wait for 12 months and file (in NYS) for Constr. Abandonment (it's been 3 months already with no sex), b) file now for cruel and inhumane treatment and face a costly battle, or wait for her to (maybe) get around to it and then just not respond (we have no children or assets). I was taken to the cleaners in my last divorce, so I am scared to death now, especially since she has all of our money. I know she has already emptied her bank accounts, and she has threatened to "lose her job" and sue me for alimony.
Does anyone have any suggestions? I don't want anything from her; I just want my life back. I am also afraid if I file for constr abandonment, she'll try to destroy me then, too. She is a real fighter and cannot back down from anything. I also can't afford to fight her too much. This marriage is a real nightmare. I feel trapped... if I divorce her, I am afraid I will lose whatever I have left (which is not much), and If I don't, I will have a nervous breakdown.What is the name of your state?
Does anyone have any suggestions? I don't want anything from her; I just want my life back. I am also afraid if I file for constr abandonment, she'll try to destroy me then, too. She is a real fighter and cannot back down from anything. I also can't afford to fight her too much. This marriage is a real nightmare. I feel trapped... if I divorce her, I am afraid I will lose whatever I have left (which is not much), and If I don't, I will have a nervous breakdown.What is the name of your state?