You are kidding right? Dad would have the right to custody over brother and the fact that you say you can't support your child... If you had custody you would get some child support and getting a job would help. You don't get out of supporting your child just because he doesn't live with you either. If your son lived with a third party both you AND dad would be required to pay that third party child support.Lisa S said:What is the name of your state? Kansas I am considering divorce, I have a 16 yr old boy. I would not be able to support him and his father travels on business. Can he live with his 19 yr. old brother legaly?
While I agree with this 100%****************************...Ohiogal said:You are kidding right? Dad would have the right to custody over brother and the fact that you say you can't support your child... If you had custody you would get some child support and getting a job would help. You don't get out of supporting your child just because he doesn't live with you either. If your son lived with a third party both you AND dad would be required to pay that third party child support.
First of all I am not STUPID! I plan on getting a job, but until then both boys would remain in their fathers home, I currently do not have a full time postion but I am looking for one! There are so many debts in this marriage that there is no money at all. So I feel that the only fair thing to do for MY KIDS was to leave by myself without taking anymore than was necessary from their dad. That was my only crime I Love my kids and only want the best for them!Ohiogal said:You are kidding right? Dad would have the right to custody over brother and the fact that you say you can't support your child... If you had custody you would get some child support and getting a job would help. You don't get out of supporting your child just because he doesn't live with you either. If your son lived with a third party both you AND dad would be required to pay that third party child support.
Dad justs want to pretend that everthing is going to be ok he wants me to go back to the way I was 23 yrs. ago Shut up , do AS I AM TOLD AND DEAL WITH IT, his FAVORITE SAYING NOW IS " It dosent matter what you want or think!" I am sorry but I would like to have a little say so.stealth2 said:So does Dad not agree with the 16yo living with the 19yo brother?
While that's probably true...it may depend on just how much dad travels for business. If Dad is on the road most of the month, I am not sure I judge would agree that it would be better for a 16 year old to be basically living alone, rather than with his older brother.Ohiogal said:I get the feeling that dad wants son to live with him. Guess what -- if that is what dad wants and mom wants son to live with brother, dad wins.
Sorry, but it makes we wonder why you waited 20+ years to leave a man that supposedly treated you so bad!!!Lisa S said:Dad justs want to pretend that everthing is going to be ok he wants me to go back to the way I was 23 yrs. ago Shut up , do AS I AM TOLD AND DEAL WITH IT, his FAVORITE SAYING NOW IS " It dosent matter what you want or think!" I am sorry but I would like to have a little say so.
Exactly.AHA said:Sorry, but it makes we wonder why you waited 20+ years to leave a man that supposedly treated you so bad!!!
You're doing excellent so far. The court will love it.Lisa S said:First of all I am not STUPID! I plan on getting a job, but until then both
Tell us when you HAVE a job.
boys would remain in their fathers home, I currently do not have a full time postion but I am looking for one! There are so many debts in this marriage that there is no money at all.
And you didn't contribute to those debts, correct?
So I feel that the only fair thing to do for MY KIDS was to leave by myself without taking anymore than was necessary from their dad.
"Necessary" is subjective.
That was my only crime I Love my kids and only want the best for them!
Stop coaching her. You didn't really expect a thoughtful answer and you know you won't get one from her.stealth2 said:That didn't answer my question.
OK....something just occurred to me and I would ask that you clarify things.Lisa S said:First of all I am not STUPID! I plan on getting a job, but until then both boys would remain in their fathers home, I currently do not have a full time postion but I am looking for one! There are so many debts in this marriage that there is no money at all. So I feel that the only fair thing to do for MY KIDS was to leave by myself without taking anymore than was necessary from their dad. That was my only crime I Love my kids and only want the best for them!
If that is what she is asking then legally it would not be a problem because the 19 year old would be an adult who is considered capable of watching a minor. HOWEVER, a 19 year old, OP, cannot supercede dad when it comes to custody.LdiJ said:OK....something just occurred to me and I would ask that you clarify things.
You are stating that BOTH boys would remain with dad. Therefore it occurs to me that we might be misinterpreting your question.
You have stated that you don't feel that you are able to take custody at this time. Are you really asking if its OK, that the 16 year old lives in dad's home with only the 19 year old present to provide supervision while dad travels?...is your primary concern that you and dad are legally permitted to allow the 16 year old to live with basically only the 19 year old's supervision while dad travels?