NeedMoreCowbell
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What is the name of your state? New York
My sister-in-law is an attractive 25 year old receptionist ('Heather') at a large company. Several months ago a 38 year old product engineer ('Ralph') pursued her, while engaged to another woman. He ended the engagement and they've been dating for several months.
The relationship hasn't been a healthy one, with family not approving due to his controlling nature and negative influence on her self esteem. Recently, after seeing Ralph's decidedly friendly nature with other women, Heather went out with a group of friends, had too much to drink, and ended up kissing a random barfly. A manager at the company she works at happened to be there, and happened to see this.
The next day, the manager told a few coworkers as well as Ralph about what he had seen. Ralph confronted Heather, who admitted her actions. He then began 'spreading the word', so-to-speak, to the rest of the building. She's now been labelled ... well, "that girl" by every other employee she interacts with. The impact on her emotional state has been severe.
We've been telling her to just quit, however she has a recently discovered medical condition that will require expensive treatment; therefore, the medical insurance her employer provides is crucial. She's also been with this company for some time, and is unsure of being able to find a comparable position quickly.
Is she stuck at this job where she has to be in constant contact with this Ralph character and endure the humiliation of a building of employees that see her in such a negative light?
I realize my opinion isn't exactly objective, but 'Heather' is a wonderful person with a large heart, and truly deserves better than the poor choices she made a few months ago when she agreed to date the fool that has done nothing but damage her emotionally and professionally. We're not a litigious group and are unsure of any legal recourse we may have.
Thank you for any advice.
My sister-in-law is an attractive 25 year old receptionist ('Heather') at a large company. Several months ago a 38 year old product engineer ('Ralph') pursued her, while engaged to another woman. He ended the engagement and they've been dating for several months.
The relationship hasn't been a healthy one, with family not approving due to his controlling nature and negative influence on her self esteem. Recently, after seeing Ralph's decidedly friendly nature with other women, Heather went out with a group of friends, had too much to drink, and ended up kissing a random barfly. A manager at the company she works at happened to be there, and happened to see this.
The next day, the manager told a few coworkers as well as Ralph about what he had seen. Ralph confronted Heather, who admitted her actions. He then began 'spreading the word', so-to-speak, to the rest of the building. She's now been labelled ... well, "that girl" by every other employee she interacts with. The impact on her emotional state has been severe.
We've been telling her to just quit, however she has a recently discovered medical condition that will require expensive treatment; therefore, the medical insurance her employer provides is crucial. She's also been with this company for some time, and is unsure of being able to find a comparable position quickly.
Is she stuck at this job where she has to be in constant contact with this Ralph character and endure the humiliation of a building of employees that see her in such a negative light?
I realize my opinion isn't exactly objective, but 'Heather' is a wonderful person with a large heart, and truly deserves better than the poor choices she made a few months ago when she agreed to date the fool that has done nothing but damage her emotionally and professionally. We're not a litigious group and are unsure of any legal recourse we may have.
Thank you for any advice.