spiritfild
Junior Member
What is the name of your state? CA
My boyfriend is on probation for drug possession, and I have some questions about it. I try to ask him, because I'm furious about the restrictions they place on him, but he thinks I'm not being supportive.
Anywho - what are the rules for going out of the country? I'm concerned, because we had tentitive plans to go to Europe within the next year or two, and I don't want that to get screwed up.
The thing is, he very very rarely did drugs. Which is probably why he got caught - he wasn't a pro at sneaking it around. He never does drugs when he's with me (which he would be if we were traveling), is not an alcoholic or anything. He just did these things when he was with some (bad influence) friends. He's become a Christian since his arrest (a better one than me, I would almost say. lol), lost his daughter, and basically just had his priorities straightened out.
I don't see how going on a European vacation is anything that would threaten his 'recovery.' I just don't know what probation officers base their decisions on. Obviously, the same probation restrictions are just thrown at you no matter who you are or how bad your addiction is, but do they take things like the above mentioned facts into consideration if you want to go on vacation? I mean, one of the trips was to visit family we've never seen (we should have gone earlier this year, but his daughter's death prompted a lot of plans to be cancelled), and one would be our honeymoon (we are planning on getting married, obviously). Both of which were thought of way in advance of all this crap.
So yes - how does it work, asking for permission to go abroad? Please give me a kind answer... so many threads I read have very bitter, rude answers to them, and I really don't feel that's necessary. I just need a little help, please. Thank you!
My boyfriend is on probation for drug possession, and I have some questions about it. I try to ask him, because I'm furious about the restrictions they place on him, but he thinks I'm not being supportive.
Anywho - what are the rules for going out of the country? I'm concerned, because we had tentitive plans to go to Europe within the next year or two, and I don't want that to get screwed up.
The thing is, he very very rarely did drugs. Which is probably why he got caught - he wasn't a pro at sneaking it around. He never does drugs when he's with me (which he would be if we were traveling), is not an alcoholic or anything. He just did these things when he was with some (bad influence) friends. He's become a Christian since his arrest (a better one than me, I would almost say. lol), lost his daughter, and basically just had his priorities straightened out.
I don't see how going on a European vacation is anything that would threaten his 'recovery.' I just don't know what probation officers base their decisions on. Obviously, the same probation restrictions are just thrown at you no matter who you are or how bad your addiction is, but do they take things like the above mentioned facts into consideration if you want to go on vacation? I mean, one of the trips was to visit family we've never seen (we should have gone earlier this year, but his daughter's death prompted a lot of plans to be cancelled), and one would be our honeymoon (we are planning on getting married, obviously). Both of which were thought of way in advance of all this crap.
So yes - how does it work, asking for permission to go abroad? Please give me a kind answer... so many threads I read have very bitter, rude answers to them, and I really don't feel that's necessary. I just need a little help, please. Thank you!