What is the name of your state? NJ
The other night I was threatened with a gun by my ex in philadelphia. The philadelphia police are handling this but because I live in NJ as does my ex they said that I had to get a restraining order there and that I should go to my town police station immediatly and get an emergency TRO. So I did that, only when I got to the station I was treated like I commited the crime. It should be noted that I had brought them emails a week before in which she threatened to do exactly what she eventually did. They did nothing with them. I gave them a phone number she had called me from several times over the last few months, and they did nothing.
Now it should be noted that me and my ex have been having problems for over a year now. This is not my fault as she refuses to back off. 8 months ago we filed restaining orders against each other. I was denied, but she won hers. Three days after winning it she emailed me and began mocking me and telling me that she can contact me, but I can't because I'll go to jail. I recieved many of these the last few months, not once did I talk to her, then they began turning violent. Twice I alerted my local police and they simply shrugged and said there was nothing they could do and that I should change my number and email. Well I did, and that lead her to find me and pull a gun. So as I was saying I went to the station for an emergency order and they greeted me by saying "You again, this is becoming an event with you. You know this really needs to stop." They said this over and over in a firm manner that was obviously intended to intimidate me, as if I was causing the problem. They put me on with the judge and the judge seemed more interested in her restraining order then in what I was accusing her of. He declined to give it to me and said I should change my email and phone, I informed him I did, he said nothing. Ok, is it me or does the idea of changing your information sound pointless when the person has come after you with a gun already, how would changing my number protect me? She's already proven that isn't going to stop her, and why isn't anyone addressing the fact that she's abusing the restraining order? Look, she screwed my damn life up with this order and that's not enough for her, she has to harass me with it knowing I can't do anything back, you mean to tell me they are just going to let her do this and tell me to keep changing my life around for her? That's not right. Now she's running around with a gun unchecked, and I was refused protection. The police here refuse to do anything and whats worse they are treating me like I'm the bad guy.
How is this right? Even the philly detective was shocked by this. How can these police do nothing? How can they treat me like they did and deny me protection? I mean she pulled a GUN on me! There has to be something I can do about this, she can't be allowed to abuse the order and pull guns when ever she wants and I'm expected to endlesly change my life around to avoid her. This is insanity! I mean I don't know that she wouldn't actually try and shoot me, maybe then I'll get attention. Maybe this is why a good percentage of domestic violence situations end in murder, because of situations like this.
The other night I was threatened with a gun by my ex in philadelphia. The philadelphia police are handling this but because I live in NJ as does my ex they said that I had to get a restraining order there and that I should go to my town police station immediatly and get an emergency TRO. So I did that, only when I got to the station I was treated like I commited the crime. It should be noted that I had brought them emails a week before in which she threatened to do exactly what she eventually did. They did nothing with them. I gave them a phone number she had called me from several times over the last few months, and they did nothing.
Now it should be noted that me and my ex have been having problems for over a year now. This is not my fault as she refuses to back off. 8 months ago we filed restaining orders against each other. I was denied, but she won hers. Three days after winning it she emailed me and began mocking me and telling me that she can contact me, but I can't because I'll go to jail. I recieved many of these the last few months, not once did I talk to her, then they began turning violent. Twice I alerted my local police and they simply shrugged and said there was nothing they could do and that I should change my number and email. Well I did, and that lead her to find me and pull a gun. So as I was saying I went to the station for an emergency order and they greeted me by saying "You again, this is becoming an event with you. You know this really needs to stop." They said this over and over in a firm manner that was obviously intended to intimidate me, as if I was causing the problem. They put me on with the judge and the judge seemed more interested in her restraining order then in what I was accusing her of. He declined to give it to me and said I should change my email and phone, I informed him I did, he said nothing. Ok, is it me or does the idea of changing your information sound pointless when the person has come after you with a gun already, how would changing my number protect me? She's already proven that isn't going to stop her, and why isn't anyone addressing the fact that she's abusing the restraining order? Look, she screwed my damn life up with this order and that's not enough for her, she has to harass me with it knowing I can't do anything back, you mean to tell me they are just going to let her do this and tell me to keep changing my life around for her? That's not right. Now she's running around with a gun unchecked, and I was refused protection. The police here refuse to do anything and whats worse they are treating me like I'm the bad guy.
How is this right? Even the philly detective was shocked by this. How can these police do nothing? How can they treat me like they did and deny me protection? I mean she pulled a GUN on me! There has to be something I can do about this, she can't be allowed to abuse the order and pull guns when ever she wants and I'm expected to endlesly change my life around to avoid her. This is insanity! I mean I don't know that she wouldn't actually try and shoot me, maybe then I'll get attention. Maybe this is why a good percentage of domestic violence situations end in murder, because of situations like this.