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What is the name of your state? California
My 90 year old father broke his hip and after hospitalization and rehab is not able to live alone any longer. In April he moved into my home but he was not physically progressing so we all decided it would be best if he went back to his home to live and we would move into his home to be unpaid caregivers. My family consists of myself, 57 years old, along with my husband and 18 year old son and our 13 year old dog. He is well off financially but extremely tight with his money. I am his trustee on his financial holdings and have his Durable Power of Attorney. We have uprooted our entire lives to allow him to live in his own home and have incurred a lot of expense in getting our own house ready to rent so it would not sit there vacant. Here is my question. My dad wants us to pay a portion of the utilities and food. We are 3 unpaid caregivers and I wonder if this is ethical or could I simply say to him, we are free help and he needs to be paying the utilities and food. (We do not consume much food or supplies as my son is away much of the time, my husband travels and I work full time and eat in the cafeteria at work.
My second question is, with the Power of Attorney, are there any expenses that I could recupe such as lost wages, gas, time spent handleing paperwork?
I appreciate your guidance. Dad's lawyer has been very unclear on this.
New caregiver.
My 90 year old father broke his hip and after hospitalization and rehab is not able to live alone any longer. In April he moved into my home but he was not physically progressing so we all decided it would be best if he went back to his home to live and we would move into his home to be unpaid caregivers. My family consists of myself, 57 years old, along with my husband and 18 year old son and our 13 year old dog. He is well off financially but extremely tight with his money. I am his trustee on his financial holdings and have his Durable Power of Attorney. We have uprooted our entire lives to allow him to live in his own home and have incurred a lot of expense in getting our own house ready to rent so it would not sit there vacant. Here is my question. My dad wants us to pay a portion of the utilities and food. We are 3 unpaid caregivers and I wonder if this is ethical or could I simply say to him, we are free help and he needs to be paying the utilities and food. (We do not consume much food or supplies as my son is away much of the time, my husband travels and I work full time and eat in the cafeteria at work.
My second question is, with the Power of Attorney, are there any expenses that I could recupe such as lost wages, gas, time spent handleing paperwork?
I appreciate your guidance. Dad's lawyer has been very unclear on this.
New caregiver.