I live in California. My concern is for an elderly aunt and uncle in Burlington, Iowa. He is 85 and she was 79, she passed away this Sunday in a nursing home.
Approximately 4 years ago my aunt was diagnosed with Parkinson's and mild dementia. My uncle cared for her as best he could for 2 years, then hired a caregiver recommended by a neighbor. This caregiver is a 45 year old woman who has been married 5 times and is not licensed, and she accepts only cash payments. She was supposed to be taking care of my aunt, but it seems she made more of a friendship with my uncle. He feels sorry for her and even gave her bonus cash for her duties. In September of 2006 the caregiver hurt her back and convinced my uncle to move my aunt to a nursing home. She at that time obtained durable powers of attorney for both of them. This was done through an attorney who purports to represent all three parties, my aunt, the caregiver, and my uncle. Long story short, my aunt did not like the caregiver and when she continued to be involved in their lives after she was rushed into a home, she refused to eat. She began to hate my uncle for continuing to see this woman and bring here around. She has involved her daughrter and grandson in my uncles life. I last saw my aunt 3 weeks ago at the home and she informed me that the caregiver had taken over and she just wanted to die. She was frail and skinny, but not looking starved. She was completely lucid and used exceptional language skills. She was not terminal. Last week the caregiver called in Hospices and took her off all medications, she died a week later. My uncle believes this caregiver is a wonderful woman, and she is now moving into his home to take care of him. He has spent a lot of money repairing her car, paying her and her daughters rent and apparently paying for her son's college. She is aware of his financial position. He has spent over $150,000 on non care items in the past two years. We have called the local police and they have interviewed her, but they say they can do nothing. I am at a loss. Not only do I feel this woman killed my aunt, but I feel she is robbing my uncle blind, and that he will be dead in a year. Any suggestions where to start? We have filed a complaint with The Department of Heath Services, and are putting together some info to look at a complaint against the nursing home, but we are in CA. Tough to follow up personally.
Approximately 4 years ago my aunt was diagnosed with Parkinson's and mild dementia. My uncle cared for her as best he could for 2 years, then hired a caregiver recommended by a neighbor. This caregiver is a 45 year old woman who has been married 5 times and is not licensed, and she accepts only cash payments. She was supposed to be taking care of my aunt, but it seems she made more of a friendship with my uncle. He feels sorry for her and even gave her bonus cash for her duties. In September of 2006 the caregiver hurt her back and convinced my uncle to move my aunt to a nursing home. She at that time obtained durable powers of attorney for both of them. This was done through an attorney who purports to represent all three parties, my aunt, the caregiver, and my uncle. Long story short, my aunt did not like the caregiver and when she continued to be involved in their lives after she was rushed into a home, she refused to eat. She began to hate my uncle for continuing to see this woman and bring here around. She has involved her daughrter and grandson in my uncles life. I last saw my aunt 3 weeks ago at the home and she informed me that the caregiver had taken over and she just wanted to die. She was frail and skinny, but not looking starved. She was completely lucid and used exceptional language skills. She was not terminal. Last week the caregiver called in Hospices and took her off all medications, she died a week later. My uncle believes this caregiver is a wonderful woman, and she is now moving into his home to take care of him. He has spent a lot of money repairing her car, paying her and her daughters rent and apparently paying for her son's college. She is aware of his financial position. He has spent over $150,000 on non care items in the past two years. We have called the local police and they have interviewed her, but they say they can do nothing. I am at a loss. Not only do I feel this woman killed my aunt, but I feel she is robbing my uncle blind, and that he will be dead in a year. Any suggestions where to start? We have filed a complaint with The Department of Heath Services, and are putting together some info to look at a complaint against the nursing home, but we are in CA. Tough to follow up personally.