whatcanIdo
Junior Member
What is the name of your state? NC
I actually posted this in another forum but thought I should post it here also so this may be redundent.
My mother is 78 yrs old and recently downsized her home. My sister held her power of attorney to handle the sale of her old home and the purchase of her new. Unbeknownst to mom, sis closed simultaneously a HELOC and has been making payments so she wouldn't get caught. In addition, she was on my mom's checking account just in case my mom fell ill. The account held last year around $25K and now it is all gone.
My mom doesn't want to to do anything about it and she frankly doesn't understand what has happened. She keeps spouting "she's my daughte" and "what's done is done." My sis has given mom a promissory note to repay the money she took and my mom is satisfied. Here's my issue. The amount owed is grossly less that what it should be. Mom doesn't care and has forbidden us to discuss this, especially with me. I would like to review the transactions so that I can determine how the funds were disbursed at closing. It's classic elder abuse and I know this, but my mom can't and won't do anything about it. My sis won't discuss it with me because she tells me it's between her and Mom. (just a side note-sis has said on numerous occassions that she thinks mom is suffering from dimensia (sp?) however, that may be because my mom was getting wise to what was going on).
Should I let this go and let mom be taken advantage of or should I defy her request and research the transactions and/or hire an attorney? What can I, or what should I do, if anything? I hate to press charges on my sis, yet I don't think she should be able to get away with this type of abuse. Any recommendations?
I actually posted this in another forum but thought I should post it here also so this may be redundent.
My mother is 78 yrs old and recently downsized her home. My sister held her power of attorney to handle the sale of her old home and the purchase of her new. Unbeknownst to mom, sis closed simultaneously a HELOC and has been making payments so she wouldn't get caught. In addition, she was on my mom's checking account just in case my mom fell ill. The account held last year around $25K and now it is all gone.
My mom doesn't want to to do anything about it and she frankly doesn't understand what has happened. She keeps spouting "she's my daughte" and "what's done is done." My sis has given mom a promissory note to repay the money she took and my mom is satisfied. Here's my issue. The amount owed is grossly less that what it should be. Mom doesn't care and has forbidden us to discuss this, especially with me. I would like to review the transactions so that I can determine how the funds were disbursed at closing. It's classic elder abuse and I know this, but my mom can't and won't do anything about it. My sis won't discuss it with me because she tells me it's between her and Mom. (just a side note-sis has said on numerous occassions that she thinks mom is suffering from dimensia (sp?) however, that may be because my mom was getting wise to what was going on).
Should I let this go and let mom be taken advantage of or should I defy her request and research the transactions and/or hire an attorney? What can I, or what should I do, if anything? I hate to press charges on my sis, yet I don't think she should be able to get away with this type of abuse. Any recommendations?