What is the name of your state? NC
1st off my dad is still alive.
But here is the story...
My dad was married to my stepmom for 30 years. She died 2 years ago. He of course had to change his will etc. and willed me & my children the bulk of his estate.
Here is the problem, I know my dad has been lonely since my stepmom died and I understand that and encouraged him to find someone to spend time with (a lady friend). Well he did. He joined an online dating service and met a nurse who after only knowing for 2 or 3 months is considering marrying. I totally DO NOT like where this is going. She has children of her own who she never see's and doesn't even know where one of them are. And frankly doesn't seem to care. Anyway, that is her business.
My dad is a severe diabetic, she is actively encouraging him to STOP taking his diabetes medicine and has been sending him pain killers, muscle relaxers and sleeping pills in the mail telling him to take them because she doesn't think he gets enough sleep.
She lives all the way across the country, but is planning on relocating here and marrying him as far as I know. Which I know of course will change everything involving his estate. She will end up with 100% of it probably.
I am more worried about him being so niave and taking her 'medical' advice and those pills than I am his estate though to be honest.
I know someone will pipe up and say 'it's not YOUR money to begin with' ...but without going into a whole big back story, in all moral rights, I should stay his legal heir because of the relationship we have had, well up until the internet nurse came along.
I have tried to talk to him about this (not his estate but how dangerous it is to not take his meds and TO take meds that havent been prescribed for him from his dr....) but he has lost it and brushes it off thinking she knows whats best for him, as shes a nurse and they've known each other a whole 3 months!
I'm quite angry with this woman for jeopardizing his health, well I think she is! And I would be livid if something happened to him and she ended up with everything he has worked so hard for his entire life.
I am at my wits end worrying about it, he has a job working with the public so no-one would ever believe that he's lost his marbles since meeting this woman. But I really believe he has.
Is there anything I can do to make sure this woman doesn't get everything my dad owns if he dies before she does? That is if she doesn't rob him blind while he's still alive.
I know some people would say it's greedy etc. but I would be very upset if she inherited his estate and my kids and myself ended up with nothing.
(ps. there are an awful lot of wicked stepmother stories on here...which isn't surprising!!)
1st off my dad is still alive.
But here is the story...
My dad was married to my stepmom for 30 years. She died 2 years ago. He of course had to change his will etc. and willed me & my children the bulk of his estate.
Here is the problem, I know my dad has been lonely since my stepmom died and I understand that and encouraged him to find someone to spend time with (a lady friend). Well he did. He joined an online dating service and met a nurse who after only knowing for 2 or 3 months is considering marrying. I totally DO NOT like where this is going. She has children of her own who she never see's and doesn't even know where one of them are. And frankly doesn't seem to care. Anyway, that is her business.
My dad is a severe diabetic, she is actively encouraging him to STOP taking his diabetes medicine and has been sending him pain killers, muscle relaxers and sleeping pills in the mail telling him to take them because she doesn't think he gets enough sleep.
She lives all the way across the country, but is planning on relocating here and marrying him as far as I know. Which I know of course will change everything involving his estate. She will end up with 100% of it probably.
I am more worried about him being so niave and taking her 'medical' advice and those pills than I am his estate though to be honest.
I know someone will pipe up and say 'it's not YOUR money to begin with' ...but without going into a whole big back story, in all moral rights, I should stay his legal heir because of the relationship we have had, well up until the internet nurse came along.
I have tried to talk to him about this (not his estate but how dangerous it is to not take his meds and TO take meds that havent been prescribed for him from his dr....) but he has lost it and brushes it off thinking she knows whats best for him, as shes a nurse and they've known each other a whole 3 months!
I'm quite angry with this woman for jeopardizing his health, well I think she is! And I would be livid if something happened to him and she ended up with everything he has worked so hard for his entire life.
I am at my wits end worrying about it, he has a job working with the public so no-one would ever believe that he's lost his marbles since meeting this woman. But I really believe he has.
Is there anything I can do to make sure this woman doesn't get everything my dad owns if he dies before she does? That is if she doesn't rob him blind while he's still alive.
I know some people would say it's greedy etc. but I would be very upset if she inherited his estate and my kids and myself ended up with nothing.
(ps. there are an awful lot of wicked stepmother stories on here...which isn't surprising!!)
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