idiot in CA
Junior Member
What is the name of your state? California
I married a man last March and found out months later that he and his ex wife had professed their love for each other just two months after we were married. Then they started going for family counseling with the kids a few months ago, all the while he was obsessing over her. He would talk about her for hours on end, and she would be the constant topic of conversation at each family gathering. They had been divorced for five years. He started complaining about me, my kids, my spending ( which I hardly did) and how I need to cut back. I finally left a week ago, and on the day I went to get my things, he shows me credit card balances in the amount of 86,000 dollars. I never charged any of it, my name is not on any of the accounts, and my name was not on his bank account where my paycheck was deposited each month. He paid the bills, and our NET pay each month was combined 11,000 a month, 4,000 of which was the mortgage (my name is not on the house). How much of this mess is my financial responsibility? Should I seek an annulment based on fraud? It's tragic and painful and I would like to resolve it all as easily as possible, if there is such a thing. I honestly thought I would be married to this man for the rest of our lives. I need advice. Please be kind. I know I was stupid. Thanks.
I married a man last March and found out months later that he and his ex wife had professed their love for each other just two months after we were married. Then they started going for family counseling with the kids a few months ago, all the while he was obsessing over her. He would talk about her for hours on end, and she would be the constant topic of conversation at each family gathering. They had been divorced for five years. He started complaining about me, my kids, my spending ( which I hardly did) and how I need to cut back. I finally left a week ago, and on the day I went to get my things, he shows me credit card balances in the amount of 86,000 dollars. I never charged any of it, my name is not on any of the accounts, and my name was not on his bank account where my paycheck was deposited each month. He paid the bills, and our NET pay each month was combined 11,000 a month, 4,000 of which was the mortgage (my name is not on the house). How much of this mess is my financial responsibility? Should I seek an annulment based on fraud? It's tragic and painful and I would like to resolve it all as easily as possible, if there is such a thing. I honestly thought I would be married to this man for the rest of our lives. I need advice. Please be kind. I know I was stupid. Thanks.
