What is the name of your state? FL
OK! Now we are getting somewhere. As this is a legal forum I really don't think you want to hear the sordid details so I will keep that out. I will however have to explain why certain things happened.
Here is a complete listing of the agreement. Now, this agreement was signed at our second mediation. We had been there 3 hours going over the same things....his attorney would jump up walk out of the room and pitch a fit, me, my xh and the mediator would sit there staring at each other wondering what the hell was going on. Finally, the mediator pulled us aside, away from both attorneys and said, you both are wonderful people, this is what is going to happen. She then broke down the financial statements, the formulas, the amount I needed to be able to buy toilet paper. I was even surprised at the amount. But I hired an attorney to represent me and keep my best interest at hand. We then went back to our attorneys, discussed it and EVERYONE AGREED. So a quick, yet precise draft was typed up and signed. Before the final divorce hearing, my attorney sent a more detailed agreement, my xhusband refused to sign. His attorney then drafted one that was so out of the limits of the original my xhusband TOLD me not to sign it. All this happened in the Judges chambers. Believe it or not. On our 3rd trip to the final hearing both our attorneys showed up. Only one was needed. His left. We all agreed to end the divorce on the agreement that was typed up and signed at our final mediation. The Judge looked it over, said everything was fine, said congratulations your divorced. Now this Judge is from what I understand, highly feared? Respected? and doesn't accept anything but fair! She has several books out. Her name.....can I mention it? So here is the wording on the Final Divorce Agreement.....in the next post as this one is long enough!
Unless the divorce was granted based upon adultery, it will not affect alimony pre-, during or after (after?! what??! LOL) divorce. If not proven it is merely hearsay.
Unless your divorce decree specifically states that alimony is modifiable, all of this is moot.
Unless the divorce decree specifically outlines a dollar amount due, versus 50/50 net proceeds of sale of the home to each party, the drop in equity is just life.
You're divorced for all of 8 months yet you reference you have been pressuring him to sell/list for 2.5 yrs. You should have brought a listing agreement with you to court so the judge would have him sign. Not sure what you thought would change after divorcing.
You state the calculation was completed over a year ago - yet you're not divorced a year. I don't think the change in the housing market will necessarily result in a new formula.
You mentioned your ex has made some less than timely payments - may be an indicator that his debts have increased thus ...he may now have less disposable income. And if there were issues with timely payments, his new wife may have chosen to keep her funds separate and only deposit something minimal to a joint account for household expenses.
You haven't provided any of the verbiage on your divorce decree whatsoever - therefore, we are all really just wasting our time.
BTW - found it interesting how much your writing has changed from your first post to those after having read Ld's !! Have a happy day...and bless your heart.
OK! Now we are getting somewhere. As this is a legal forum I really don't think you want to hear the sordid details so I will keep that out. I will however have to explain why certain things happened.
Here is a complete listing of the agreement. Now, this agreement was signed at our second mediation. We had been there 3 hours going over the same things....his attorney would jump up walk out of the room and pitch a fit, me, my xh and the mediator would sit there staring at each other wondering what the hell was going on. Finally, the mediator pulled us aside, away from both attorneys and said, you both are wonderful people, this is what is going to happen. She then broke down the financial statements, the formulas, the amount I needed to be able to buy toilet paper. I was even surprised at the amount. But I hired an attorney to represent me and keep my best interest at hand. We then went back to our attorneys, discussed it and EVERYONE AGREED. So a quick, yet precise draft was typed up and signed. Before the final divorce hearing, my attorney sent a more detailed agreement, my xhusband refused to sign. His attorney then drafted one that was so out of the limits of the original my xhusband TOLD me not to sign it. All this happened in the Judges chambers. Believe it or not. On our 3rd trip to the final hearing both our attorneys showed up. Only one was needed. His left. We all agreed to end the divorce on the agreement that was typed up and signed at our final mediation. The Judge looked it over, said everything was fine, said congratulations your divorced. Now this Judge is from what I understand, highly feared? Respected? and doesn't accept anything but fair! She has several books out. Her name.....can I mention it? So here is the wording on the Final Divorce Agreement.....in the next post as this one is long enough!