unforg1ven
Junior Member
What is the name of your state? California
Hello,
I hope I can find some answers here. I have been desperately searching to no avail for my specific situation.
When I was 17 years old I went out partying with a bunch of friends, one who happend to be an ex-girlfriend of mine (We lost our virginity to each other). To make a already long story shorter, We ended up back at her house for a few beers and she let me spend the night at her house. We were both drunk, and when we were heading to bed she put on a very provocative nighty and got in with me. I of course took that as a come-on and started hitting on her (Copping a feel, trying to undress, etc). Suddenly she leaped out of the bed and ran into the bathroom when I was hitting on her. She stayed in there and started crying. I didn't know what to do at the time so I just stayed where I was (on the bed). Her sisters boyfriend at the time ended up kicking me out of the house and I walked home that night.
The next day I called their house to apologize, and come to find out that her sister and mother took her to the police department to report what had happend. I got the number from them and called the person handling the case. He took me in that following monday and took my story. Our stories matched completely, except she said that she was passed out and I was just all over her. She wasn't asleep. There was no way that could have happend considering I started hitting on her RIGHT WHEN SHE CRAWLED INTO BED WITH ME!
Anyways, they were able to keep me in custody after I had told them my story because I had a probation violation from earlier (I never did the community service, etc.). When court time came around my mother wouldn't show up to court, no one was on my side at all, and I had this public attorney who basically told me if I didn't plead guilty to attempted rape and they would promise to send me to a drug & alcohol group home (I admitted to the people taking my story at the time that I had serious drug problems and I wanted to get help for them), then I was looking at 5 years + in CYA.
I was so scared, and I didn't know what to do. people were telling me my actions were completely wrong, and I didn't know what to think, so of course I pleaded guilty as a minor to the attempted rape charge and they sent me to a Drug & Alcohol abuse group home for 2 years (with some sexual counseling in there, but it wasn't the entire basis of it).
I graduated their program completely. I first went through their year of group home, then they moved me over to their foster care program (because by that time my mom was completely gone, and no where to be found in the state). After that they graduated me to their transitional living program which we went to court for and they offered to pay for it because of how well I was taking to the rehabilitation.
When I was finally released from the group home/foster home services I was 19 years old, and my probation was promptly closed. They sent me to stay with my Grandparents because I had no where else to go. I was never told to register as a sex offender or anything, and I never received a letter from any entity saying I had to, so I assume that I didn't have to.
It's now been 8 years since that incident, and over 6 since I've been off probation and I've kept my nose clean ever since. I do not do any drugs, and I've been going to college to get my degree in computer science. I am also a UNIX systems administrator.
I am not the person they branded me as when I was 17, I never was. However, I am reading alot of conflicting material on the internet and its hard to see if theres any light for a guy like me. All I want is a second chance; A chance to be able to seal my record and move on with my life. I feel that I cannot apply to good Colleges or get jobs where they do serious background checks to better my life and become the person I was meant to be to society.
I am willing to do anything I have to do to fix this, I just don't know where to start or if it's even possible.
I guess my questions at the end of all this are:
1. Is "Attempted Rape" a 707(b) charge that's unsealable? There was no force, and when she got up I did not pursue it any longer.. It was by no means 'violent'.
2. Would the probation department or anyone have contacted me if I was required to register as a sex offender? (You see, I am even scared to pull my records from the California Department of Justice to see whats even on there for fear they might tell me I was supposed to and its my fault and send me to jail or something similar) I mean they sent me paperwork saying my juvenile case was closed but nothing else.
3. If it is unsealable, is there anything other options I can look at?
I can only ask you spare the judgements, but there may still be one or two hecklers in the crowd that wish to ruin my desperate plea for help with their witty comments. All I ask is you please read the entire post before you attack me.
Thank you for your time
Hello,
I hope I can find some answers here. I have been desperately searching to no avail for my specific situation.
When I was 17 years old I went out partying with a bunch of friends, one who happend to be an ex-girlfriend of mine (We lost our virginity to each other). To make a already long story shorter, We ended up back at her house for a few beers and she let me spend the night at her house. We were both drunk, and when we were heading to bed she put on a very provocative nighty and got in with me. I of course took that as a come-on and started hitting on her (Copping a feel, trying to undress, etc). Suddenly she leaped out of the bed and ran into the bathroom when I was hitting on her. She stayed in there and started crying. I didn't know what to do at the time so I just stayed where I was (on the bed). Her sisters boyfriend at the time ended up kicking me out of the house and I walked home that night.
The next day I called their house to apologize, and come to find out that her sister and mother took her to the police department to report what had happend. I got the number from them and called the person handling the case. He took me in that following monday and took my story. Our stories matched completely, except she said that she was passed out and I was just all over her. She wasn't asleep. There was no way that could have happend considering I started hitting on her RIGHT WHEN SHE CRAWLED INTO BED WITH ME!
Anyways, they were able to keep me in custody after I had told them my story because I had a probation violation from earlier (I never did the community service, etc.). When court time came around my mother wouldn't show up to court, no one was on my side at all, and I had this public attorney who basically told me if I didn't plead guilty to attempted rape and they would promise to send me to a drug & alcohol group home (I admitted to the people taking my story at the time that I had serious drug problems and I wanted to get help for them), then I was looking at 5 years + in CYA.
I was so scared, and I didn't know what to do. people were telling me my actions were completely wrong, and I didn't know what to think, so of course I pleaded guilty as a minor to the attempted rape charge and they sent me to a Drug & Alcohol abuse group home for 2 years (with some sexual counseling in there, but it wasn't the entire basis of it).
I graduated their program completely. I first went through their year of group home, then they moved me over to their foster care program (because by that time my mom was completely gone, and no where to be found in the state). After that they graduated me to their transitional living program which we went to court for and they offered to pay for it because of how well I was taking to the rehabilitation.
When I was finally released from the group home/foster home services I was 19 years old, and my probation was promptly closed. They sent me to stay with my Grandparents because I had no where else to go. I was never told to register as a sex offender or anything, and I never received a letter from any entity saying I had to, so I assume that I didn't have to.
It's now been 8 years since that incident, and over 6 since I've been off probation and I've kept my nose clean ever since. I do not do any drugs, and I've been going to college to get my degree in computer science. I am also a UNIX systems administrator.
I am not the person they branded me as when I was 17, I never was. However, I am reading alot of conflicting material on the internet and its hard to see if theres any light for a guy like me. All I want is a second chance; A chance to be able to seal my record and move on with my life. I feel that I cannot apply to good Colleges or get jobs where they do serious background checks to better my life and become the person I was meant to be to society.
I am willing to do anything I have to do to fix this, I just don't know where to start or if it's even possible.
I guess my questions at the end of all this are:
1. Is "Attempted Rape" a 707(b) charge that's unsealable? There was no force, and when she got up I did not pursue it any longer.. It was by no means 'violent'.
2. Would the probation department or anyone have contacted me if I was required to register as a sex offender? (You see, I am even scared to pull my records from the California Department of Justice to see whats even on there for fear they might tell me I was supposed to and its my fault and send me to jail or something similar) I mean they sent me paperwork saying my juvenile case was closed but nothing else.
3. If it is unsealable, is there anything other options I can look at?
I can only ask you spare the judgements, but there may still be one or two hecklers in the crowd that wish to ruin my desperate plea for help with their witty comments. All I ask is you please read the entire post before you attack me.
Thank you for your time
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