Hello,
I am hoping that I could get some good advice on this website. My story is complicated but I will try to simplify it the best way I can. I am a 20 year old young woman who lives with her mother in PA. When I was 13, my father left. To this day, he still pays all of the bills (Utilities, Rent etc..) on top of money to my mother in the amount of $200 a week. My mother is not clinically diagnosed as mentally ill to my knowledge, but she does see a psychiatrist and is on a number of medications and shows MANY signs of being Bi-Polar. She is in denial about herself and the things she does to others. In order to help everyone understand, I will give some examples:
Before I was even born, my father had many threatening incidents with her including death threats, verbal and physical abuse. One inicident was when my parents lived in an apartment. My mother was going crazy breaking things around the house and the downstairs neighbor called the police. The police came and she told them that my father hit her. She got scared because she lied and told them the truth that he did not. The police believed my father regaurdless that he did not touch her. This continued after I was born. In 1991, this seemed to be the peak of her illness. My father has kept records on this as well from Sept. of 1991 to at least Dec. of 1991 and maybe even longer. There was an incident when I was 3 years old where my mother got enraged with my father on Thanksgiving night and chased him out of the house with a butcher knife leaving him to sleep in his car because he feared for his life. My grandmother (on my Mothers side) offered to let my father and I sleep at her house but my father refused because he knew what hell my mother could raise. Continuing when I was 4 years old I had said "I'm pretty and you're jealous." She said to my father "I hate that little Mother Fu***r. I should have never had her. I lost my looks when I did. I hope you both drop dead." What did I know at 4 years old? An inicident I clearly remember when I was 5 was a time that I was sitting in my room and all of the sudden she throws everything I had off of my dresser. She defends herself by saying "It was because you wouldn't clean your room." I do not recall having a messy room nor does my father who was standing there. When I got older, I remember hysterically crying, we had been through an eviction and I was very upset. We had just moved into a new apartment and she took a pillow and smothered me with it because she did not want neighbors to here and proceeded to pull my hair. More recently, the threats have been about a friend of hers who she doesn't talk to anymore but is a very vindictive and evil person. She has done much to hurt people. My mother threatens me with this, and although I believe she is just trying to scare me, I still feel somewhat afraid. No matter what, there is no reasoning with her. There is always an argument. My mother is mentally ill, and she tries to brainwash me into thinking I am as well. I do have anxiety but looking at my life, I think it is understandable.
I feel as though I am in danger at the moment. She keeps records saying that I abuse her (verbally) when many arguments start because she is not normal and cannont relate to people.I have my father to vouch as well. I do not know what she could do to me. I just wanted to know what my rights are? She threatens to kick me out, and although her name is on the lease with my father (who pays the rent), she does not pay for a thing in the house. My father will take her name off the lease for my protection if need be. I feel as though she may try to accuse me of ludicrous things.
thank you.
I am hoping that I could get some good advice on this website. My story is complicated but I will try to simplify it the best way I can. I am a 20 year old young woman who lives with her mother in PA. When I was 13, my father left. To this day, he still pays all of the bills (Utilities, Rent etc..) on top of money to my mother in the amount of $200 a week. My mother is not clinically diagnosed as mentally ill to my knowledge, but she does see a psychiatrist and is on a number of medications and shows MANY signs of being Bi-Polar. She is in denial about herself and the things she does to others. In order to help everyone understand, I will give some examples:
Before I was even born, my father had many threatening incidents with her including death threats, verbal and physical abuse. One inicident was when my parents lived in an apartment. My mother was going crazy breaking things around the house and the downstairs neighbor called the police. The police came and she told them that my father hit her. She got scared because she lied and told them the truth that he did not. The police believed my father regaurdless that he did not touch her. This continued after I was born. In 1991, this seemed to be the peak of her illness. My father has kept records on this as well from Sept. of 1991 to at least Dec. of 1991 and maybe even longer. There was an incident when I was 3 years old where my mother got enraged with my father on Thanksgiving night and chased him out of the house with a butcher knife leaving him to sleep in his car because he feared for his life. My grandmother (on my Mothers side) offered to let my father and I sleep at her house but my father refused because he knew what hell my mother could raise. Continuing when I was 4 years old I had said "I'm pretty and you're jealous." She said to my father "I hate that little Mother Fu***r. I should have never had her. I lost my looks when I did. I hope you both drop dead." What did I know at 4 years old? An inicident I clearly remember when I was 5 was a time that I was sitting in my room and all of the sudden she throws everything I had off of my dresser. She defends herself by saying "It was because you wouldn't clean your room." I do not recall having a messy room nor does my father who was standing there. When I got older, I remember hysterically crying, we had been through an eviction and I was very upset. We had just moved into a new apartment and she took a pillow and smothered me with it because she did not want neighbors to here and proceeded to pull my hair. More recently, the threats have been about a friend of hers who she doesn't talk to anymore but is a very vindictive and evil person. She has done much to hurt people. My mother threatens me with this, and although I believe she is just trying to scare me, I still feel somewhat afraid. No matter what, there is no reasoning with her. There is always an argument. My mother is mentally ill, and she tries to brainwash me into thinking I am as well. I do have anxiety but looking at my life, I think it is understandable.
I feel as though I am in danger at the moment. She keeps records saying that I abuse her (verbally) when many arguments start because she is not normal and cannont relate to people.I have my father to vouch as well. I do not know what she could do to me. I just wanted to know what my rights are? She threatens to kick me out, and although her name is on the lease with my father (who pays the rent), she does not pay for a thing in the house. My father will take her name off the lease for my protection if need be. I feel as though she may try to accuse me of ludicrous things.
thank you.
