What is the name of your state? Illinois
My wife and I were divorced in 2003. At that time, I left the marriage with only my truck and a boat; giving her the family home, bank accounts and all other assets as I did not want to make it any harder for our two children.
Recently, I received a notice to appear in court to pay increased child support, which I agree with since I do make more money now than I did when we first got divorced, but they want to hold me in contempt of court for not paying my 60% of tuition for our childrens catholic school they attended in 2006. In 2006, I was deployed to Iraq and my mother had my full POA. During this time, she wrote checks out each month for $90, which shows in my checkbook register, and mailed them to my ex, however, my bank accounts show that these checks were never cashed. No calls were ever made to me, or my mother, saying that the checks were never received. I KNOW they were sent!! My mother is so intent that my kids stay in this school (she attended catholic school from kindergarten through college) that she was even paying the tuition when we first got divorced, since neither my ex or I had the funds to do it. I have recently paid the 2007-08 tuition, as I found out my ex has paid nothing. Isn't this contempt of court since I had to pay her 40%? Does my checkbook register have any weight, as far as proving that payments were sent for 2006? Also, my ex was supposed to refinance the house within 6 months of our divorce; at that time I would sign a quit claim deed. She has not done so and has affected my credit record by being >30 days late on two occassions. Isn't this contempt of court? Is there anything I can do? I have not taken her to court for these issues as I did not want to rock the boat and try real hard to get along with her. But I'm tired of trying. Im worn out and am sick of "walking on eggshells" around her. I have no problems fulfilling my financial obligations, as they are for my children, but I'm sick of being made to always look like the bad guy. She will never return my calls and does not keep me informed of the childrens progress in school or tell me of medical appointments. HELP ME PLEASE! On top of everything else, she claimed that her job was too stressful (she designed kitchens and bathrooms for a company) and quit in May of 2007 and hasn't worked since. How could she now obtain financing for her house?
My wife and I were divorced in 2003. At that time, I left the marriage with only my truck and a boat; giving her the family home, bank accounts and all other assets as I did not want to make it any harder for our two children.
Recently, I received a notice to appear in court to pay increased child support, which I agree with since I do make more money now than I did when we first got divorced, but they want to hold me in contempt of court for not paying my 60% of tuition for our childrens catholic school they attended in 2006. In 2006, I was deployed to Iraq and my mother had my full POA. During this time, she wrote checks out each month for $90, which shows in my checkbook register, and mailed them to my ex, however, my bank accounts show that these checks were never cashed. No calls were ever made to me, or my mother, saying that the checks were never received. I KNOW they were sent!! My mother is so intent that my kids stay in this school (she attended catholic school from kindergarten through college) that she was even paying the tuition when we first got divorced, since neither my ex or I had the funds to do it. I have recently paid the 2007-08 tuition, as I found out my ex has paid nothing. Isn't this contempt of court since I had to pay her 40%? Does my checkbook register have any weight, as far as proving that payments were sent for 2006? Also, my ex was supposed to refinance the house within 6 months of our divorce; at that time I would sign a quit claim deed. She has not done so and has affected my credit record by being >30 days late on two occassions. Isn't this contempt of court? Is there anything I can do? I have not taken her to court for these issues as I did not want to rock the boat and try real hard to get along with her. But I'm tired of trying. Im worn out and am sick of "walking on eggshells" around her. I have no problems fulfilling my financial obligations, as they are for my children, but I'm sick of being made to always look like the bad guy. She will never return my calls and does not keep me informed of the childrens progress in school or tell me of medical appointments. HELP ME PLEASE! On top of everything else, she claimed that her job was too stressful (she designed kitchens and bathrooms for a company) and quit in May of 2007 and hasn't worked since. How could she now obtain financing for her house?