daddysgirl
why no one has answered this part , i am unsure...if you have a copy of your marriage license that has been filed, with the courthouse...then you need to take it to his sgt's, and tell them what is going on...i wouldnt bring out all the ugly truth(in case hubby does decide to be married to you etc), but just tell them you need to be enrolled in deers and tricare, so you can get your medical rolling...the child cannot be added to his page2, until that child is born...however, if he is collecting any bah, or if you are living in housing, then YOU are already on his dependents worksheet.....now, if i can remember correctly he DOES have to be with you to get your deers id, however i don't think he has to accompany you to get your tricare(he might, i'm unsure)...without an ID, you are unable to use anything on base (commissary, libraries, maybe even legal)....also, most bases have wic on post now, since now there are so many moms in the military...if you have a base directory, those offices will be listed mostly under family, or womens service members resources.....as long as he is collecting money on you, he has to provide you with the medical and id portion of your marriage.....also, there are therapy services available on most posts, that are available to spouses, and children on top of the service members...it is also advised you seek these services, and hopefully get him to attend...