Harmonygrl
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What is the name of your state? Georgia
Hello, I was an active poster last year on behalf of my divorcing friend. I haven't been back in a while because the last thing that happened last autumn was that the judge actually granted a last-minute continuance for an indeterminate amount of time to my friend's stbx.
She had her surgery (reason for the continuance, even though the hearing was scheduled a week before the surgery), and she continues to stall and delay and threaten. Most recently, a final hearing date was set for the beginning of June. At first, the stbx resisted it and demand a special hearing on the grounds that she couldn't physically sit in a courtroom waiting all day for her turn to arrive on the docket. After some wrangling, a special hearing date was found and set -- which she then rejected. Another hearing date was set (this one in the start of June), and the other side went quiet, until recently.
The stbx recently contacted my friend via email, asking him to delay the hearing again due to her health issues. She claims that she cannot sit for more than an hour without pain. She also gave a long laundry list of health issues, none of them life-threatening but some might require more surgery. Meanwhile, she is living rent-free with relatives while my friend has to foot the legal bills, maintain the marital home, pay the stbx temporary support -- and he goes further into debt each month.
Personally, I think this individual has psych problems where she is addicted to the attention she gets from doctors and family for being "sick" but that's a whole other story. Anyway, the judge has already granted one continuance for her to receive back surgery, and now she is trying to claim she still has all these health problems that preclude her from attending the final hearing.
This divorce has been dragging on for nearly 18 months. They have no children. She has repeatedly applied for SSDI and been rejected each time. However, the judge seems somewhat biased towards the stbx in thinking that she may not be able to work -- but the stbx's former profession (before she became a professional patient!) was in an office, which is quite sedentary. I mean, people in wheelchairs work at desks all the time, if that is what is deemed necessary.
Anyway, what else can my friend do within the bounds of the law to get this resolved so he can move on?
Thank you for listening and for any advice you may have to offer.
Hello, I was an active poster last year on behalf of my divorcing friend. I haven't been back in a while because the last thing that happened last autumn was that the judge actually granted a last-minute continuance for an indeterminate amount of time to my friend's stbx.
She had her surgery (reason for the continuance, even though the hearing was scheduled a week before the surgery), and she continues to stall and delay and threaten. Most recently, a final hearing date was set for the beginning of June. At first, the stbx resisted it and demand a special hearing on the grounds that she couldn't physically sit in a courtroom waiting all day for her turn to arrive on the docket. After some wrangling, a special hearing date was found and set -- which she then rejected. Another hearing date was set (this one in the start of June), and the other side went quiet, until recently.
The stbx recently contacted my friend via email, asking him to delay the hearing again due to her health issues. She claims that she cannot sit for more than an hour without pain. She also gave a long laundry list of health issues, none of them life-threatening but some might require more surgery. Meanwhile, she is living rent-free with relatives while my friend has to foot the legal bills, maintain the marital home, pay the stbx temporary support -- and he goes further into debt each month.
Personally, I think this individual has psych problems where she is addicted to the attention she gets from doctors and family for being "sick" but that's a whole other story. Anyway, the judge has already granted one continuance for her to receive back surgery, and now she is trying to claim she still has all these health problems that preclude her from attending the final hearing.
This divorce has been dragging on for nearly 18 months. They have no children. She has repeatedly applied for SSDI and been rejected each time. However, the judge seems somewhat biased towards the stbx in thinking that she may not be able to work -- but the stbx's former profession (before she became a professional patient!) was in an office, which is quite sedentary. I mean, people in wheelchairs work at desks all the time, if that is what is deemed necessary.
Anyway, what else can my friend do within the bounds of the law to get this resolved so he can move on?
Thank you for listening and for any advice you may have to offer.
