What is the name of your state? I live in NYC....my wife served me with papers in November----uncontested at first now she has asked for a pre trial conf. THe original papers claimed constuctive abandonment......no kids,no house to split....married 56 months.....the attorney I contacted sais go to the pre trial conf.....if it gets crazy with her and her lawyer just ask for a postponement and he will represent me from that point foward....she makes more money than i do...she also asked me to pay for her legal fees....i do not know what to do...