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How to find out about an adoption

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Gum_Drop

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What is the name of your state? LA

Is there any way to find out if a child was legally adopted?

The father never signed away any rights, refused both times "papers" were brought to him to sign.

Father signed BC, and an AOP when the child was born. Parents were never married.

Family members on both sides, are saying the child has been adopted.

But father was never formally notified, nor was he ever given a court date about having parental rights terminated.

If the child was adopted, is there anything the father can do about it now? 5 years after the fact?

He has seen the child on a few occasions, and she knows he is her "real" dad, her words not mine.

Twisted family tale, but the fathers MOTHER, and SISTER are both allowed contact with the child. The new dad doesnt want the mother or child around the father for insecurity issues.
 


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nextwife

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Dad can file for a visitation schedule. If there has been an adoption, that will force them to produce proof.

BTW- Is dad paying child support?
 
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Gum_Drop

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No child support. Has never been court ordered to pay it.

Aside from filing for visitation, no other way to find out about an adoption?

He is concerned that, if she has been adopted, and they find out that he was looking, they may not allow the child to see his mom or sister.

And via his mom and sis, he does have the chance to talk to her. And when the time permits he does see her. His mom and sis live a few hours away. His mom and sis are needed as babysitters.

Child is 11, and knows he is her "real" dad. She has his cell number, and she does call him on her own when ever her "other" dad is not around.

Reason this is an issue now, is that the "other" dad, has been abusing the mom. The mom left the "other" dad after he broke her arm. (May 3rd) Sadly, the mom went back. (May 21st)

Child has said that "other" dad has never hit her because, "Nana told him that my "real" dad would beat him stupid"

Nana is the mom's mother.
 
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Gracie3787

Senior Member
elsieshup said:
No child support. Has never been court ordered to pay it.

Aside from filing for visitation, no other way to find out about an adoption?

He is concerned that, if she has been adopted, and they find out that he was looking, they may not allow the child to see his mom or sister.

And via his mom and sis, he does have the chance to talk to her. And when the time permits he does see her. His mom and sis live a few hours away. His mom and sis are needed as babysitters.

Child is 11, and knows he is her "real" dad. She has his cell number, and she does call him on her own when ever her "other" dad is not around.

Reason this is an issue now, is that the "other" dad, has been abusing the mom. The mom left the "other" dad after he broke her arm. (May 3rd) Sadly, the mom went back. (May 21st)

Child has said that "other" dad has never hit her because, "Nana told him that my "real" dad would beat him stupid"

Nana is the mom's mother.
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Adoption records are not public records. So, the only way dad can find out for sure is by filing in court.
 
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Gum_Drop

Member
And if he filed in court asking, would mom and "other" dad find out?

And is she was adopted, is there anything he can do about it? Since he was not notified, and never signed any papers?
 
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Gum_Drop

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by any chance do you know if to change a childs last name an adoption has to take place?

We did attend (on the slick mind you) her 5th grade graduation. And they called her by his last name. Broke her dads heart to. He wont admit it but he had tears in his eyes.
 
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ian_m

Junior Member
I never did hear your relationship in all of this.
It sounds like you're the paternal grandmother, concerned on behalf of your son?
And are you concerned if "they" find out he is investigating, or are you concerned if the adoptive father were to find out? It sounds like a visitation request would go the mother, and not automaticly forwarded to the adoptive father. Of course it's still mail coming into the house, and court proceedings for the mother to answer to.

Just trying to understand the question AND the answer.
 
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Gum_Drop

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I am his wife. And he is concerned about them, her, him, any of them finding out, and cutting all ties with the child.

As it stands now, she knows he is her dad, and she does get to see some of his family. Hell, I have been allowed to see the child, and bring our children to "hang out" with the child at a park. This was done with the moms approval. The mom also brought the child to a portrait studio so that the child could be in a picture with our children. All done without the "other" dad knowing.

He had accepted the fact that he is gonna have to wait until she turns 18 to attempt to have a real relationship with her.

But with the recent knowledge of the "other" dad's abuse, he just wants to know if she was really adopted, and if she was, since he was not notified, and never signed anything, can anything be done now?
 
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