Unfortunately, we live in different states which makes it very difficult to have any kind of relationship.
It's only as difficult as you allow it to be.
We were only 17 when we had our children and have both married since.
So you put more effort into having a relationship with someone that you could have sex with, than your children. Let's call a spade a spade.
My ex hasn't allowed me to be a part of their lives since she has remarried.
And what have you done through the legal channels to ensure that you can remain a part of their lives? Nothing? Thought not. I know, you can't afford it. How much did you spend dating your new wife? How much did you spend on the wedding? How much have you spent on outings, food, gifts, etc.? Thought so.
They have a full time dad that is there with them and raising them for the last 8 years, so I'm okay with the adoption.
No, they don't have a dad. They have their mother's husband, who is NOT their father, but from the looks of it, should be since you are not interested in taking the job.
I just want to make sure that if for whatever reason the judge declines the adoption that I haven't given up all rights as their father.
Do everyone a favor and make sure that EVERYTHING IN YOUR POWER is done to make sure that adoption goes through. Write the judge. Write your congressman. Give your ex a ton of money to hire a kick ass attorney. Heck, send me her address, I'll take up a collection. These kids deserve to have a legal FATHER... a MAN in their lives that gives a darn about them... instead of the inconvenience of it all.