What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Oklahoma
My situation is not near as serious it seems as others on here, Im not on here to be put down in any way. Im on here to get advice and thats it.
I married my current husband a little over a year ago he has a now 3 year old daughter from a previous marraige, I have 2 children from a previous marraige. We have no issues with my ex he is in the same town and regularly sees the children and has a relationship with them. My husbands ex however had remarried and has moved around constantly to 9 different states that we know of. We went to court and my husband got full custody of his daugher about 6 months ago it was finallized. His ex gave up the fight because she couldn't afford it. She also has a son who she gave to her mother. He has lived with her for years now. So she doesn't have either of the children anymore. I suggested to my husband to put in the custody papers that if his ex misses any 3 visitations in one year that the visitation becomes null and void and she gets to see the child upon my husbands availability. She has already missedway over that but I only have written documentation of 3 1/2 months of missed visitation. Should he have more papers drawn up to back this clause in the custody papers up and have her served. This would take away everything from the holidays from the summer months she things she will get her. I do have an appointment to day to talk with a lawyer. She does have phone contact with the child once in a while. I would eventually love to adopt her but I don't see my chances of proving anything like abandoment because of the phone contact and she is paying child support. So our main goal is to have her stripped of anything other than the everyother week visitation. Im trying to cover everything. When the ex first took off she didn't see the child for almost 8 months, and it has been very inconsistend and unpredictable since then. She has only given us one written current address the whole time, going against what the papers say. Please don't judge me Im not wanting to take a biomo away from a child Im trying to protect the child from stress and heartache because the biomo doesn't care. Not to say she doesn't care about the child but she is putting her own wants and needs before the child and it has already effected her.
My situation is not near as serious it seems as others on here, Im not on here to be put down in any way. Im on here to get advice and thats it.
I married my current husband a little over a year ago he has a now 3 year old daughter from a previous marraige, I have 2 children from a previous marraige. We have no issues with my ex he is in the same town and regularly sees the children and has a relationship with them. My husbands ex however had remarried and has moved around constantly to 9 different states that we know of. We went to court and my husband got full custody of his daugher about 6 months ago it was finallized. His ex gave up the fight because she couldn't afford it. She also has a son who she gave to her mother. He has lived with her for years now. So she doesn't have either of the children anymore. I suggested to my husband to put in the custody papers that if his ex misses any 3 visitations in one year that the visitation becomes null and void and she gets to see the child upon my husbands availability. She has already missedway over that but I only have written documentation of 3 1/2 months of missed visitation. Should he have more papers drawn up to back this clause in the custody papers up and have her served. This would take away everything from the holidays from the summer months she things she will get her. I do have an appointment to day to talk with a lawyer. She does have phone contact with the child once in a while. I would eventually love to adopt her but I don't see my chances of proving anything like abandoment because of the phone contact and she is paying child support. So our main goal is to have her stripped of anything other than the everyother week visitation. Im trying to cover everything. When the ex first took off she didn't see the child for almost 8 months, and it has been very inconsistend and unpredictable since then. She has only given us one written current address the whole time, going against what the papers say. Please don't judge me Im not wanting to take a biomo away from a child Im trying to protect the child from stress and heartache because the biomo doesn't care. Not to say she doesn't care about the child but she is putting her own wants and needs before the child and it has already effected her.