What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Idaho
My sister and I had hoped to keep my Alheimers (both) parents in their home that they love until the end. In the beginning(about a year ago)it was easy-dementia was only occasional. Now it is a constant-I had to call the police 2 months ago because my Dad was threatening to murder all of us and I was scared. (please don't berate me for not seeing the writing on the wall at that time....) Their doctor has told me she will fill out the form stating they cannot care for themselves. My sis and I both have durable POAs.
My Dad fell recently fell and couldn't get up-my sister and her husband had to go over and get him up. Sis and I do/did EVERYTHING for them- shower my Dad, all meals, etc.-but were not there 24/7. I've had to step back (for my health-I was a wreck to see these 2 wonderful people that I adore become my children...) so I no longer go over. Sis said she would do all herself "she does anyway" according to her. I know for a fact she is not there for them 24/7-more like 6 hrs. per day. She has refused to see an attorney with me, visit "homes" do anything that would indicate she agrees what needs to be done. While I don't relish taking her/them to court for guardianship (that is what the police would have to be done but I didn't know that) , is that what needs to be done? Could the law come after her (and me to some extent I guess) saying we neglected them and charge us with elder abuse? Dad's next fall could be down the stairs and he'll be killed.
Thank you all so much. I write this with tears in my eyes.
MaryWhat is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?
My sister and I had hoped to keep my Alheimers (both) parents in their home that they love until the end. In the beginning(about a year ago)it was easy-dementia was only occasional. Now it is a constant-I had to call the police 2 months ago because my Dad was threatening to murder all of us and I was scared. (please don't berate me for not seeing the writing on the wall at that time....) Their doctor has told me she will fill out the form stating they cannot care for themselves. My sis and I both have durable POAs.
My Dad fell recently fell and couldn't get up-my sister and her husband had to go over and get him up. Sis and I do/did EVERYTHING for them- shower my Dad, all meals, etc.-but were not there 24/7. I've had to step back (for my health-I was a wreck to see these 2 wonderful people that I adore become my children...) so I no longer go over. Sis said she would do all herself "she does anyway" according to her. I know for a fact she is not there for them 24/7-more like 6 hrs. per day. She has refused to see an attorney with me, visit "homes" do anything that would indicate she agrees what needs to be done. While I don't relish taking her/them to court for guardianship (that is what the police would have to be done but I didn't know that) , is that what needs to be done? Could the law come after her (and me to some extent I guess) saying we neglected them and charge us with elder abuse? Dad's next fall could be down the stairs and he'll be killed.
Thank you all so much. I write this with tears in my eyes.
MaryWhat is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?