What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? new york I am in the process of going through A divorce. I have suspected from sometime my wife was having a affair. I placed a voice activated tape recorder where she used to pace and talk. On the tape she is talking to her friend and explains she has 30 mins for lunch which gives them 10 mins together. She go's on to say right now it's only kissing and talking but she can't wait to have sex with him. How can this be beneficial to my divorce we have 3 boys 14,7,5 and one girl 12. We are both professional people with equal income. Should I worry about this being illegal ? I need all the help I can get. She committed this selfish act and destroyed our 5 lives. Thank You!