murder threat in ct

anybody familiar with ct. state law, please help. last fall, he pushed her while she was pregnant. the baby was born in december. he ignored this child since conception, hasn't paid a dime or a minute of attention to the infant. in january, he was arrested for telling her that if she ever left, he would hunt her down, kill her, and take the baby. she was given an order of protection stating that he was not to harass, sexually harass, threaten, or cause her bodily harm. but they still live in the same house. he missed his original court hearing, and so the order is still in effect. she went to see a court appointed counelor. he said that he was going to reccomend anger management counciling, and parenting classes for him. then cancelled his appointment with her boyfriend. why? i have no idea. the court date is not until next week. meanwhile, the boyfriend has continuously threatened her and harassed her. from groping her bottom, to swinging the fireplace poker around in the air, and ruminating, "i wonder if anyone has ever been killed with one of these?"
i called the local police in connecticut, to see if he could be arrested and jailed for violating this order, by making this statement. they said yes, but he won't even be held overnight. what is the consequence, then? why bother getting a protective order if there is no penalty for violating it? this is the exact same proceedure they followed the first time she had him arrested. how many threats does he get to make on her life, before it is a crime? how many more chances does he get? he is going to kill her. his mood swings are getting more severe. he is telling her that he's having sexual dreams about her. picked their infant daughter up by the front of her overalls, without supporting her head. when she asked him, "please don't do that!" he denied the baby could be hurt by such actions. abuses the animals. screams at her in front of the child. is there nothing that can be done to stop him? please please please. should she run for her life? he says he will charge her with kidnapping. an old girlfriend had a restraining order out against him. he was investigated once by the fbi. his own mother says that he needs help. there is something really wrong with this guy. he's about to snap. can anyone help this girl? she is terrified to do the wrong thing legally, and remains in this situation as it rapidly comes to a boiling point. can she at least request a temporary restraining order to get him out of the house, so that she can leave in peace? what if he breaks that order? are there any consequenses to violating a judges orders in connecticut?????

I don't know the ct laws there, but I would suggest that your friend contacts the local domestic abuse center and have her to get her baby and herself out of that house and go to local shelter such as a doemstic abuse center or something similar for women and children shelter.

have her contact the FBI agent agian, make sure your friends has saved any letters, voice tape as an evidence to show that her boyfriend or ex boyfriend is threatening her and her baby.

if she can't leave the house for any reason, then go back to courthouse and get the judge to grant the temproary restaining order for him to get out of the house.It should have been done that in first place, when a order of protection order is in effect, he should have been already out of the house.unless judge there haven't order him out of the house when he/she signed the order of protection

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Thank you for your thoughts. I have been telling her to save any paperwork, and to contact the authorities about getting copies of his previous arrests.

After that big, big message, I neglected to say that the day after he was arrested, she went to court, and he told her that they wouldn't even listen to what she had to say. He convinced her that she should leave, and she believed him. That's why the order of protection was issued and he was allowed to come back to the house.

The same day, he came home, he tried to make her promise that she would never call the police on him again, and since then, he has also been extremely agitated that she is talking to her friends and family about his threats and behavior.

I have suggested that she go to this second hearing, and tell the court what he's been doing since the order was issued, ask that the protective order be made permanent, and ask for a restraining order.

Meanwhile, she has two days left to survive . . .

order of protection??

i am not sure if orders of protection vary from state to state i had one on my exhusband after a domestic abuse incident where i had him arrested, if there is an order of protection it can't be valid if they continued to live in the same domicile, she broke the order by approaching him and entering back in the house, if she was there first then she should have called 911 when he arrived at the house, she definatley needs to get out of the house this is the year 2001 there are so many things to help her so many laws and shelters, if she doesn't do it for herself then she needs to do it for the baby, you can also intervine if he is abusive to the baby, call CPS let them step in, your friend may need a push in the right direction alot of women in abusive relationships don't have the esteem ,the courage, or the strength to help themselves. what a friend you are to seek help for her!!!

Thank You

Thank you for writing. Yes, I discovered that in CT, protective orders are issued to control his behavior and verbal threats, and restraining orders can kick him out of the house, and give her temporary sole custody.
She is going to the superior court today to request a restraining order.
Meanwhile, I've discovered that he has an unregistered pistol in the house, doesn't have a permit to have it, lied to the judge at the first hearing and stated that he didn't own any weapons, and failed to turn it in within 48 hours after the protective order was issued. This is a felony, but when I called the police, they couldn't guarantee that he would be held in jail for this charge. (He can pay bail)
Supposedly, he found the weapon under a bush when they lived in another state. The serial number has been removed. Despite the fact that he has been trained as an EMT, a Firefighter, and a Deputy, he (if you believe this story) decided not to turn it in to the authorities, and smuggled it across state lines when they moved to Ct. I imagine every crook says they "found" their pistol under a bush, though.
I believe that I convinced her to make a statement about the weapon, and file a complaint that he failed to turn it over to the proper authorities. I think that she is at court doing that right now.
Besides all of that, she says that she mentioned the weapon when she made her statement for the protective order in January, and the authorities failed to follow up, and confiscate the weapon.
Not to mention, a mutual friend of ours called the police to check on her one night, and she called them back, and asked them not to come. They turned back before going to the house to check on her, which is apparently against the rules. They are required to check, even if she calls to say that she's fine. He could have been holding that gun to her head, and forcing her to call. Who are they to say that it was even really her calling?
I have half a mind to call the Hartford News, and see what they have to say about all of this.
Thanks for the compliment about being a good friend, but really, I just wish that I could take her place for a day. She's afraid to do the right thing, but I would have a field day with this guy.
Take Care.

Would someone please tell us what is happening with this?

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Sorry to leave you hanging. I don't even remember how many times I've called the police in connecticut in the last 48 hours.
Here is the update.
On the night of the 21st, I called the police, and asked them what the consequence would be, if it turned out to be true that he had this firearm, and all of the details about it were true. They agreed that it was a felony for him to have not turned this weapon over to the authorities. They also agreed that someone somewhere was looking for this weapon, if indeed he did find it, and at the very least, he could be charged with tampering with evidence, if it turned out that it was used in the commission of a crime. On top of all of that, one officer said that his story about "finding" the weapon didn't really jive with him.
However, they were very reluctant to go to the house and secure the weapon. They wanted my friend to call, and make a statement about the weapon herself.
Finally, the officer told me that the reaction of the police would depend greatly on how this whole story was presented to them.
Ladies and Gentlemen! If you are afraid of someone, say so!
Don't gloss over the details. If you are calling the police, it is important to explain ALL of the horrible things that are going on, and why they should take you seriously.
I managed to get a hold of her, and she agreed to tell someone about this weapon.
The following day, she went to court, and filed for a restraining order. They kept him busy at court all day. She did tell them about the weapon, and spilled her guts, and finally told them how scared she really was of him.
While they were both at court, I called the station, and told them everything I knew.
The same mutual friend who had called the police to check on this girl that one night, also called the station, and told them what she knew. We both came clean, decided that our fear of becoming involved was not helping our friend, and gave them our names, and contact information.
The police asked us if any one of us could go to the house and secure the weapon, and bring it to the station. They said, (get this) it would be "easier for them." At first, we all agreed, but we wanted to wait until the court put the restraining order through, so that we would be sure that he would not come back to the house.
Afterward, court closed, and even though the restraining order was granted, they failed to fax it to the police station, so the police were unaware of it, and unable to serve him with the restraining order and remove him from the premises.
My friend (the victim) brought the order to the police station, and they took a copy, but said that they couldn't serve him with it. A Marshall has to do that and the Marshall's office was closed until 9 am.
So, somehow, they discovered that the boyfriend was not home, and an officer escorted her to the house, to see if they could find the weapon.
They searched, but it was gone.
I found all of this out when I called the police station to find out if the weapon I had reported had been secured.
All last night, I was furious. 'They let him get away with a felony,' I kept thinking. They dropped the ball. They knew about this weapon, and they gave him six hours to go home, and get the gun, and now both he and the firearm have disappeared.
I was ready to call the press.
But . . .
This morning, the boyfriend was back at the house, and the police went down and served him with the restraining order. Before they removed him from the premises, they asked him to turn the weapon over to them, and he did.
He probably thinks that it's no big deal.
He probably thinks that now that he did the right thing, it's over and done with.
He is such an idiot.
Thank god for small favors.
Unfortunately, I can't tell you all the final tid bit, but I will say that this is far from over.
He's in a whole heap of trouble.
The police are now really helping my friend.
We have hope.
I will get back to you as soon as I can, and let you know how it all turns out.
Be patient.