What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?
California
I let my daughter return "for a few days" in August 2009- history-
Nov 2007 she moved in with me after getting evicted-(she has 4 wonderful kids- which she uses to get me to help her) during which time she stole credit cards and ran up a bill of 5K - I did not report her because- because i was stupid- she promised to pay - moved over the summer of 2008- said she had a job out of town- lived in a hotel out of town worked for maybe 3 weeks- leaving the kids alone in the hotel- (oldest 15 at the time). called being evicted from hotel- drove 3 hours and picked her and kids up- the kids again being the motivation- let her stay for short time- moved out with another single mom-sounded like a good idea for both of them- oldest boy stayed here to go to same high school- she got kicked out, moved to another friend, got kicked out - moved to another friend- got help from Housing, lived in hotel- got kicked out- lived in another hotel- got kicked out- I got her into a VA housing program- promised to get off methadone (addicted to vocodine after a knee injury). got kicked out- move in with me for a few days while she waits for placement in program- refuses all placement offers- now i want to "kick her out" and I have no rights- she has taken over my home- I have to spend money to get her out- which she very bluntly tells me to "go ahead- it will take you a "f$#@ing" year to get me out of here- Additionally my 21 year old son lives here- who she fights with constantly- accuses him of stealing her stuff- she she actually has filed a police report- or two, she has call police numerous times- (she is an amazing actress- I was actually removed from my home at gunpoint after one call to police- I have no idea what she said but there are no weapons in this home- a paring knife is as big as it gets- She has accused my son's girlfriend of stealing her underwear- the girlfriend maybe weighs 100 lbs - maybe 5 ft 1 in- my daughter weighs close to 250 lbs and is 5ft 8in. Now my son won't even come home until I get her out- partially because he can't stand to be around her and her crazy behavior- and partially because he does not want her to call the cops on him again. they already have a court date. His girlfriend has already gone to court- where my husband went with her and talked to the judge and the DA explaining the situation and the charges were dropped.
Up until a week ago I kept possession of her EBT (food stamp) card- because historically 2.5-3 weeks into the month- there was no food- nor any funds left on the card- there was however, as much candy and soda as one would want. I gave it back to her after she argued and cursed all day- i finally was tired of managing her life for her- I realized I was an enabler- so, Up until a week ago- I prepared all the meals for the kids- got them up for school- took them school- picked them up from school- last week I stopped- life was easy for her- she only had to get her methadone once a week-now they are eating fast foods 95% of the time.
why can't I get her out- she needs mental health services- she is destroying the kids-
last year they were all failing (except the oldest who was with me) they missed 69 - 75 days of school- constant calls to the home regarding discipline issues-
even with all the mess she causes- this year they have not missed a day of school (except the little one- my daughter told me she would take her to school on one occasion- and she did not get up to walk her 2 blocks to school- then another the child's father came to get her and she told him she was already gone and she did not send her then). When I returned home from work and did not find the child at school- she told me her dad had picked her up- in reality she had the child hiding in the closet all afternoon- so she would not have to tell me she did not take her to school.
she tells the kids to stay away from me- that I am bad- (yeah I am so bad that I have provided safe, warm/cool secure housing- prepare a meal for you, take you to school when the mother would only curse you for waking her- taken you to the doctor/dentist- church.... etc- you get the picture- yeah thats just how bad I am-
And did I mention- I am an Executive Director for a 98 million dollar a year business providing mental health and substance abuse treatment services to adolescents, children, adults and families- where she can get treatment for free- in any of over 30 locations nationwide-
Now how do I get her out of my home with as minimal damage to the children as possible?
What about the false police reports? can I do anything about this? (this is not the first- she scratched herself all over her neck, back, face and arms- and superficially stabbed her self in the stomach and call police and told them her estranged husband did it)What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?
California
I let my daughter return "for a few days" in August 2009- history-
Nov 2007 she moved in with me after getting evicted-(she has 4 wonderful kids- which she uses to get me to help her) during which time she stole credit cards and ran up a bill of 5K - I did not report her because- because i was stupid- she promised to pay - moved over the summer of 2008- said she had a job out of town- lived in a hotel out of town worked for maybe 3 weeks- leaving the kids alone in the hotel- (oldest 15 at the time). called being evicted from hotel- drove 3 hours and picked her and kids up- the kids again being the motivation- let her stay for short time- moved out with another single mom-sounded like a good idea for both of them- oldest boy stayed here to go to same high school- she got kicked out, moved to another friend, got kicked out - moved to another friend- got help from Housing, lived in hotel- got kicked out- lived in another hotel- got kicked out- I got her into a VA housing program- promised to get off methadone (addicted to vocodine after a knee injury). got kicked out- move in with me for a few days while she waits for placement in program- refuses all placement offers- now i want to "kick her out" and I have no rights- she has taken over my home- I have to spend money to get her out- which she very bluntly tells me to "go ahead- it will take you a "f$#@ing" year to get me out of here- Additionally my 21 year old son lives here- who she fights with constantly- accuses him of stealing her stuff- she she actually has filed a police report- or two, she has call police numerous times- (she is an amazing actress- I was actually removed from my home at gunpoint after one call to police- I have no idea what she said but there are no weapons in this home- a paring knife is as big as it gets- She has accused my son's girlfriend of stealing her underwear- the girlfriend maybe weighs 100 lbs - maybe 5 ft 1 in- my daughter weighs close to 250 lbs and is 5ft 8in. Now my son won't even come home until I get her out- partially because he can't stand to be around her and her crazy behavior- and partially because he does not want her to call the cops on him again. they already have a court date. His girlfriend has already gone to court- where my husband went with her and talked to the judge and the DA explaining the situation and the charges were dropped.
Up until a week ago I kept possession of her EBT (food stamp) card- because historically 2.5-3 weeks into the month- there was no food- nor any funds left on the card- there was however, as much candy and soda as one would want. I gave it back to her after she argued and cursed all day- i finally was tired of managing her life for her- I realized I was an enabler- so, Up until a week ago- I prepared all the meals for the kids- got them up for school- took them school- picked them up from school- last week I stopped- life was easy for her- she only had to get her methadone once a week-now they are eating fast foods 95% of the time.
why can't I get her out- she needs mental health services- she is destroying the kids-
last year they were all failing (except the oldest who was with me) they missed 69 - 75 days of school- constant calls to the home regarding discipline issues-
even with all the mess she causes- this year they have not missed a day of school (except the little one- my daughter told me she would take her to school on one occasion- and she did not get up to walk her 2 blocks to school- then another the child's father came to get her and she told him she was already gone and she did not send her then). When I returned home from work and did not find the child at school- she told me her dad had picked her up- in reality she had the child hiding in the closet all afternoon- so she would not have to tell me she did not take her to school.
she tells the kids to stay away from me- that I am bad- (yeah I am so bad that I have provided safe, warm/cool secure housing- prepare a meal for you, take you to school when the mother would only curse you for waking her- taken you to the doctor/dentist- church.... etc- you get the picture- yeah thats just how bad I am-
And did I mention- I am an Executive Director for a 98 million dollar a year business providing mental health and substance abuse treatment services to adolescents, children, adults and families- where she can get treatment for free- in any of over 30 locations nationwide-
Now how do I get her out of my home with as minimal damage to the children as possible?
What about the false police reports? can I do anything about this? (this is not the first- she scratched herself all over her neck, back, face and arms- and superficially stabbed her self in the stomach and call police and told them her estranged husband did it)What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?