Lori Nolan
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? New York
My grandmother passed away in June 09 and at that time my mother handed the rights to the family grave to my brother 2 days after she died.
They postponed the internment until Sept but my mother had a boyfriend and she had been hanging onto the ashes so that when my grandmother died and the grave
was opened up she planned to put her BF in the grave too. Unfortunatly for my Mom when it came to the signing of the paper work my brother refused her boyfriend in the
grave (purchased by my mom and her sister when grandfather died back in the early 80s). This sent a family fued of emmense proportions, they no longer spoke or
had any contact. There is also my cousin involved on my brothers side over this as her mother is also buried there, she threatened to exhume her mother if the Boyfirend went in the grave. My mother chose not to enter her mother or her boyfriend at all and kept them at home. To say the least she was devastated and beyond upset.
After not speaking and my mother writing letters to Archbishop, Notre Dame, Berreavement Council etc. to try to have that horrible decision she made revoked when she handed him the rights. My mother found out early July that she has advanced stage 4 lung cancer. Mother did not want any clinical settings nor did she want chemo, she was told to prepare for hospice. My mother went to another grave yard and purchased a grave and we entered both my mothers bf and her mother there early Aug.
Since that was done mother wanted to prepare her finances, she had appointments at the accountant and lawyer Aug 17 and 18.
Mother did not want her son involved in any of this whatsover and proceeded to take him off all of her accounts and prepared a will with her lawyer via telephone.
The day she was to go to lawyer..Aug 18 to sign she was way to ill to go.Home care insisted that she go to the hospital, I called the lawyer and they said they could come to the hospital.
She signed (under painkiller) the will she had been preparing over the last month. She also signed a disinheritance form for my brother. Mother died the next morning Aug 19 in hospital.
My brother was informed via the lawyer as we are estranged and have had our own share of problems, I had to see Mom through the way she wanted it.
My mother left lawyer as executor and my kids and I are the benefactors, I believe mother knew that my brother would try to contest and now he is.
So his fight is with the lawyer not me, but he is extremely upset especially about my grandmother not being layed to rest where she should be. I am worried that this lawyer is going to suck the estate to fight it with the expensive Lawyer he has hired to represent himself..Should I have my own lawyer? I am not sure of this Honey guy and he has control over everything, I am pretty scared. Mom lived on her own right up until the day she was admitted to hospital, until then she was a very healthy woman. Yes she was on painkiller, but her doctor (GP) told me he has many patients that take high doses of painkillers that would kill me but helps them..and they are totally competent.
I hope you can tell me what you think of this, I admit its pretty crazy
I can not access any of the estate money and I took about 6 weeks off to care for her without payment. To say I am behind is an understatement.
My brother had not spoken to my mother in the year before her death..does this help play onto my side. My mom's lawyer says we have alot of weight but he does admit it was a fast signing of the will.
Any advice would be appreciated
Thank youWhat is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?
My grandmother passed away in June 09 and at that time my mother handed the rights to the family grave to my brother 2 days after she died.
They postponed the internment until Sept but my mother had a boyfriend and she had been hanging onto the ashes so that when my grandmother died and the grave
was opened up she planned to put her BF in the grave too. Unfortunatly for my Mom when it came to the signing of the paper work my brother refused her boyfriend in the
grave (purchased by my mom and her sister when grandfather died back in the early 80s). This sent a family fued of emmense proportions, they no longer spoke or
had any contact. There is also my cousin involved on my brothers side over this as her mother is also buried there, she threatened to exhume her mother if the Boyfirend went in the grave. My mother chose not to enter her mother or her boyfriend at all and kept them at home. To say the least she was devastated and beyond upset.
After not speaking and my mother writing letters to Archbishop, Notre Dame, Berreavement Council etc. to try to have that horrible decision she made revoked when she handed him the rights. My mother found out early July that she has advanced stage 4 lung cancer. Mother did not want any clinical settings nor did she want chemo, she was told to prepare for hospice. My mother went to another grave yard and purchased a grave and we entered both my mothers bf and her mother there early Aug.
Since that was done mother wanted to prepare her finances, she had appointments at the accountant and lawyer Aug 17 and 18.
Mother did not want her son involved in any of this whatsover and proceeded to take him off all of her accounts and prepared a will with her lawyer via telephone.
The day she was to go to lawyer..Aug 18 to sign she was way to ill to go.Home care insisted that she go to the hospital, I called the lawyer and they said they could come to the hospital.
She signed (under painkiller) the will she had been preparing over the last month. She also signed a disinheritance form for my brother. Mother died the next morning Aug 19 in hospital.
My brother was informed via the lawyer as we are estranged and have had our own share of problems, I had to see Mom through the way she wanted it.
My mother left lawyer as executor and my kids and I are the benefactors, I believe mother knew that my brother would try to contest and now he is.
So his fight is with the lawyer not me, but he is extremely upset especially about my grandmother not being layed to rest where she should be. I am worried that this lawyer is going to suck the estate to fight it with the expensive Lawyer he has hired to represent himself..Should I have my own lawyer? I am not sure of this Honey guy and he has control over everything, I am pretty scared. Mom lived on her own right up until the day she was admitted to hospital, until then she was a very healthy woman. Yes she was on painkiller, but her doctor (GP) told me he has many patients that take high doses of painkillers that would kill me but helps them..and they are totally competent.
I hope you can tell me what you think of this, I admit its pretty crazy
I can not access any of the estate money and I took about 6 weeks off to care for her without payment. To say I am behind is an understatement.
My brother had not spoken to my mother in the year before her death..does this help play onto my side. My mom's lawyer says we have alot of weight but he does admit it was a fast signing of the will.
Any advice would be appreciated
Thank youWhat is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?