sadandalone
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? VA
I will try to make this as short as possible considering that I am a women it may take me longer )...anyway jokes aside I am trying to figure out some stuff and any help will be appreciated.
Marriage 6 yrs
1 child with special needs, non verbal needs lots of attention, dad provides the roof over the head, some food only when he is home, when he is gone that is mommy's job , dad dont really know how to play / interact with child
Mom - foreign born, in US for 6 yrs....citizen now so no need to ask for immigration status
-child comes always first no matter what
- have her little cleaning company, doesnt work much cause the child needs therapy and all that.
- knows to cook clean and other chores around the house
- not too happy with the marriage but for the sake of the child decided to suck it up, be an adult and try her best
-never cheated on husband while he deployed or stayed home
-good with money, even though at times she wasnt working she always saved enough, therefore 2 cars at the house no payments on it, 2 houses in US and 1 overseas.
-not high maintenance
Dad - military, gone most of the time
- believes he comes first cause he was born before the child
-makes pretty good money never have to worry about bills not beeing payed cause the wife always takes care of that
-never cleaned a house in 6 yrs
-cooked occasionally
-never done family laundry....too much work and he is already tired from work
-cheated on wife, wife got proof pic and all that good stuff
-not a bad guy compared to others but can be a real jerk at times
-shamed with his wife, reason for divorce, she gain weight and she is just a " maid" and he didnt marry a mexican , that to show how stupid he is at times
-never took wife in nice vacation, always told her there are no money
Anyway, one day dad comes home and wants a divorce, no chance on working something out, refusing to go counseling, fall out of love. Well s..t happens and that is ok but my big problem is we have a child, he is non verbal therefore is like having an infant when he is hurt u always have to go with ur best guess whats wrong with him. Very smart little man but cant talk, not even answer at : what is ur name question"
Dad is saying that a judge will make him pay me CS max 400 a month, he knows that from his buddies at work, doesnt wanna take in consideration that this is a special needs child as he still doesnt believe there is something wrong with him, yeah right 5 yrs old and doesnt talk. We have medical records to prove everything and he still doesnt believe
Now I just wanna know, what are my rights? Jag doesnt give me an app, only walk ins so therefore any confidentiality its waived, apparently that is only for active duty members
Dad and mom still lives in the same house, as mom cant afford to move out, separated bedroom and there is been no relationships what so ever since mom found out her husband has little porn movies made with other actress
The mom discover that dad likes an alternative lifestyle, dad doesnt hide it anymore but tells mom she cant do nothing about that cause any proof she might have is obtain illegally ..aka mom snoop on dads laptop...but at that time i think that is marital property
Dad coming home from overseas and plan to get a vacation all by himself for a week at some hedonism club, spends 3k, while mom struggle at home
Dad said that mom cant even complain to his chain of command cause every1 will see her as a scorned wife nothing more, so no1 will listen
I know I am not originally from this country and I am not used with all this system but can be true in anything he is saying? Can he really screw that much with me?
Thanks for reading, I know it was long
I will try to make this as short as possible considering that I am a women it may take me longer )...anyway jokes aside I am trying to figure out some stuff and any help will be appreciated.
Marriage 6 yrs
1 child with special needs, non verbal needs lots of attention, dad provides the roof over the head, some food only when he is home, when he is gone that is mommy's job , dad dont really know how to play / interact with child
Mom - foreign born, in US for 6 yrs....citizen now so no need to ask for immigration status
-child comes always first no matter what
- have her little cleaning company, doesnt work much cause the child needs therapy and all that.
- knows to cook clean and other chores around the house
- not too happy with the marriage but for the sake of the child decided to suck it up, be an adult and try her best
-never cheated on husband while he deployed or stayed home
-good with money, even though at times she wasnt working she always saved enough, therefore 2 cars at the house no payments on it, 2 houses in US and 1 overseas.
-not high maintenance
Dad - military, gone most of the time
- believes he comes first cause he was born before the child
-makes pretty good money never have to worry about bills not beeing payed cause the wife always takes care of that
-never cleaned a house in 6 yrs
-cooked occasionally
-never done family laundry....too much work and he is already tired from work
-cheated on wife, wife got proof pic and all that good stuff
-not a bad guy compared to others but can be a real jerk at times
-shamed with his wife, reason for divorce, she gain weight and she is just a " maid" and he didnt marry a mexican , that to show how stupid he is at times
-never took wife in nice vacation, always told her there are no money
Anyway, one day dad comes home and wants a divorce, no chance on working something out, refusing to go counseling, fall out of love. Well s..t happens and that is ok but my big problem is we have a child, he is non verbal therefore is like having an infant when he is hurt u always have to go with ur best guess whats wrong with him. Very smart little man but cant talk, not even answer at : what is ur name question"
Dad is saying that a judge will make him pay me CS max 400 a month, he knows that from his buddies at work, doesnt wanna take in consideration that this is a special needs child as he still doesnt believe there is something wrong with him, yeah right 5 yrs old and doesnt talk. We have medical records to prove everything and he still doesnt believe
Now I just wanna know, what are my rights? Jag doesnt give me an app, only walk ins so therefore any confidentiality its waived, apparently that is only for active duty members
Dad and mom still lives in the same house, as mom cant afford to move out, separated bedroom and there is been no relationships what so ever since mom found out her husband has little porn movies made with other actress
The mom discover that dad likes an alternative lifestyle, dad doesnt hide it anymore but tells mom she cant do nothing about that cause any proof she might have is obtain illegally ..aka mom snoop on dads laptop...but at that time i think that is marital property
Dad coming home from overseas and plan to get a vacation all by himself for a week at some hedonism club, spends 3k, while mom struggle at home
Dad said that mom cant even complain to his chain of command cause every1 will see her as a scorned wife nothing more, so no1 will listen
I know I am not originally from this country and I am not used with all this system but can be true in anything he is saying? Can he really screw that much with me?
Thanks for reading, I know it was long