What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? alabama..after a 20 yr marriage my wife filrd for divorce. afterwhich i found out she was having an affair and is still seeing the guy. my lawyer says i am intetled to have her 401k which is quite larger then mine. we have very little equity in the home due to a recent refinance and she left the home which i still reside in and make payments. i have video evedence of them and also some cell text that he sent me cause he got mad at her. i want to keep my home and do want half the 401 due to the fact that 10 yrs ago i had to bankrupt due to her excessive spending. do i have enough with the videos and such to prove adultery?What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?