whiterose2
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? New York
Hi, I have never really had to deal with anything like this before, so I am seeking some advice from anyone who can give it I guess. Here is what happened. My husband has an ex-wife and a son from that marriage. They live in Connecticut. They have been divorced for nearly 7 years and he and I have been together for 5 years with a 3 year old little boy. This past year has been hard on my husband. Trying his hardest to support our family while struggling with a decline in work. He has always paid child support to his ex. Until this past winter when things got particularly tough for us. He fell behind and his ex started to say he could not speak to his son. That went on for a couple months. He applied for modifications to the child support and we have not been able to afford an attorney for the custody situation because legal aid said they do not to family affairs. Well, that was not the worst of it. He reached an emotional breaking point the final time he spoke to his ex-wife asking to speak to his son. She refused to let him speak to him and told him she wanted to keep him around just enough so that he would still have to pay but out of their child's life. She refers to him as a monthly lottery ticket on many occasions as well. He said to her through a text message "I would like to come to your house and knock you off the high horse you think you are on". About a month later, after she changed her phone number and he had no means of getting in touch with his 8 year old son, he received a restraining order. It was decided he would not be allowed to speak, see or have any contact with them for six month. Another month later, he has just found out she is pressing charges on him. The state of Connecticut has issued a warrant for his arrest! We live in New York. Myself and my 3 year old son depend on my husband, he is our main supporter. She has been destroying our family and enjoying it. What should our next step be? Any advice would be appreciated!
Hi, I have never really had to deal with anything like this before, so I am seeking some advice from anyone who can give it I guess. Here is what happened. My husband has an ex-wife and a son from that marriage. They live in Connecticut. They have been divorced for nearly 7 years and he and I have been together for 5 years with a 3 year old little boy. This past year has been hard on my husband. Trying his hardest to support our family while struggling with a decline in work. He has always paid child support to his ex. Until this past winter when things got particularly tough for us. He fell behind and his ex started to say he could not speak to his son. That went on for a couple months. He applied for modifications to the child support and we have not been able to afford an attorney for the custody situation because legal aid said they do not to family affairs. Well, that was not the worst of it. He reached an emotional breaking point the final time he spoke to his ex-wife asking to speak to his son. She refused to let him speak to him and told him she wanted to keep him around just enough so that he would still have to pay but out of their child's life. She refers to him as a monthly lottery ticket on many occasions as well. He said to her through a text message "I would like to come to your house and knock you off the high horse you think you are on". About a month later, after she changed her phone number and he had no means of getting in touch with his 8 year old son, he received a restraining order. It was decided he would not be allowed to speak, see or have any contact with them for six month. Another month later, he has just found out she is pressing charges on him. The state of Connecticut has issued a warrant for his arrest! We live in New York. Myself and my 3 year old son depend on my husband, he is our main supporter. She has been destroying our family and enjoying it. What should our next step be? Any advice would be appreciated!