What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Georgia
I know you all are going to hate on me for this, but please let me ask my question, get some advice, and then hate on me all you want.
My husband separated from his ex-wife in 2005. I believe the divorce and custody order were finalized in 2007. When he was thrown out, he was a house husband. His wife forced him to take care of the cleaning, child care, etc but made him quit working and school. He even let his apprentice plumbing license lapse in an effort to make her happy. When he left her they had 2 kids together, and he later found out she was pregnant when he left. The child support order was set arbitrarily at almost $600 though he was not employed at the time. Of course due to not being employed for a while he immediately went into arrears. Every time he has worked since then he has sent or had garnished at least half of his paycheck. All gains from tax returns go straight to her. Any requests he puts in to have the amount re-evaluated just simply go nowhere.
Unfortunately the arrears are pretty significant. In October 2010 my husband fell 30 feet off of a ladder and fractured 3 of the transverse processes of his spine. He was understandably laid up for quite a while, and did not work again for almost a year. CSE rather than being understanding and trying to help him get his support order readjusted decided to do nothing except garnish his workman's comp. He was out of work for about a year although he received the workman's comp for only 6 weeks.
Fast forward to today. For the past year and a half my husband and I have been working at a hotel. He gets paid $500 a month, and half goes to child support. I get paid less than minimum wage and work more than full time. When we have extra money it goes to his ex. Things were going ok, we had made some gains, and then we find out I am pregnant. No problem, I managed to find a higher paying job but about 4 months into the pregnancy I started having some extremely serious complications. So much so that I have two letters from different doctors telling me that if I want my health to improve I need to quit the full time job, and keep only my part time job.
No big deal, we can do this. The part time job is the higher paying job and I can make enough money for the time being for us to live off of. Money will be tight but it will be ok. What concerns me is that when I leave the full time job at the hotel they will fire my husband. There is no question about this, we were hired as a team with the understanding that they were only hiring my husband because of me. We live in an extremely seasonal area. It is not likely he will be able to get a job for about 3 months at the earliest.
So my question becomes is there anything my husband can do to get some relief from the child support payments? My income at the part time job will only be enough to support us. I don't want to have him stop paying and cause the arrears to go higher or him to lose his license or worse. Contacting his ex-wife is out of the question. She refuses to have any contact with him and has excluded him from the life of his children since she kicked him out. She would not even give us the address they live at when we wished to send a birth certificate to them that somehow had ended up in his things. There is the possibility he will get unemployment but it is not a certainty so I don't want to depend on it. Thank you in advance for any advice you can give me.
I know you all are going to hate on me for this, but please let me ask my question, get some advice, and then hate on me all you want.
My husband separated from his ex-wife in 2005. I believe the divorce and custody order were finalized in 2007. When he was thrown out, he was a house husband. His wife forced him to take care of the cleaning, child care, etc but made him quit working and school. He even let his apprentice plumbing license lapse in an effort to make her happy. When he left her they had 2 kids together, and he later found out she was pregnant when he left. The child support order was set arbitrarily at almost $600 though he was not employed at the time. Of course due to not being employed for a while he immediately went into arrears. Every time he has worked since then he has sent or had garnished at least half of his paycheck. All gains from tax returns go straight to her. Any requests he puts in to have the amount re-evaluated just simply go nowhere.
Unfortunately the arrears are pretty significant. In October 2010 my husband fell 30 feet off of a ladder and fractured 3 of the transverse processes of his spine. He was understandably laid up for quite a while, and did not work again for almost a year. CSE rather than being understanding and trying to help him get his support order readjusted decided to do nothing except garnish his workman's comp. He was out of work for about a year although he received the workman's comp for only 6 weeks.
Fast forward to today. For the past year and a half my husband and I have been working at a hotel. He gets paid $500 a month, and half goes to child support. I get paid less than minimum wage and work more than full time. When we have extra money it goes to his ex. Things were going ok, we had made some gains, and then we find out I am pregnant. No problem, I managed to find a higher paying job but about 4 months into the pregnancy I started having some extremely serious complications. So much so that I have two letters from different doctors telling me that if I want my health to improve I need to quit the full time job, and keep only my part time job.
No big deal, we can do this. The part time job is the higher paying job and I can make enough money for the time being for us to live off of. Money will be tight but it will be ok. What concerns me is that when I leave the full time job at the hotel they will fire my husband. There is no question about this, we were hired as a team with the understanding that they were only hiring my husband because of me. We live in an extremely seasonal area. It is not likely he will be able to get a job for about 3 months at the earliest.
So my question becomes is there anything my husband can do to get some relief from the child support payments? My income at the part time job will only be enough to support us. I don't want to have him stop paying and cause the arrears to go higher or him to lose his license or worse. Contacting his ex-wife is out of the question. She refuses to have any contact with him and has excluded him from the life of his children since she kicked him out. She would not even give us the address they live at when we wished to send a birth certificate to them that somehow had ended up in his things. There is the possibility he will get unemployment but it is not a certainty so I don't want to depend on it. Thank you in advance for any advice you can give me.
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