misaxchan10
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Tennessee
I have had a seriously ugly separation from my daughters father. We aren't married, and I live with my fiancee 2 hours away from him. He constantly threatens to take me to court for not letting him see/have his daughter. She is 16 months old. I left him when she was 6 months old. He was a drug user, verbal abuser (has thrown things in angry fits at even video games), left me with her while he went and had fun with friends, used to complain about how I didn't do things, yet he would come home from work "to tired" to watch her for an hour so I could do dishes and he's play video games. She rolled off the couch once because of him not paying attention. I left him under these circumstances. He has finally come to realize he has anger problems, he is now in counseling for suicidal tendencies and depression. Tells me all the time it's my fault, and how he didn't deserve me leaving him. He wants me to bring his daughter to see him but he refuses to help me with travel because "He isn't responsible for her when she's not with him."
I've tried to speak with him numerous times. But he always gets angry because he can't understand what he was and wasn't doing was wrong. He's not in a good place, I understand this. I don't want to expose my daughter to his problems. He doesn't get it. I am tired of his threats, I've said what I can. He's been all talk lately, so I am filing for Child Support if he wants Visitations, it will be up to the court to decide. I just need help understanding what I am about to get myself into.
He is 25, I am 21. I went through hell and back to try and be with him. He was always a drug user, ended up on probation for it right after we found out we were pregnant. I thought he would change.. but there was no changing someone who was being as selfish a child-man as he.
I have had a seriously ugly separation from my daughters father. We aren't married, and I live with my fiancee 2 hours away from him. He constantly threatens to take me to court for not letting him see/have his daughter. She is 16 months old. I left him when she was 6 months old. He was a drug user, verbal abuser (has thrown things in angry fits at even video games), left me with her while he went and had fun with friends, used to complain about how I didn't do things, yet he would come home from work "to tired" to watch her for an hour so I could do dishes and he's play video games. She rolled off the couch once because of him not paying attention. I left him under these circumstances. He has finally come to realize he has anger problems, he is now in counseling for suicidal tendencies and depression. Tells me all the time it's my fault, and how he didn't deserve me leaving him. He wants me to bring his daughter to see him but he refuses to help me with travel because "He isn't responsible for her when she's not with him."
I've tried to speak with him numerous times. But he always gets angry because he can't understand what he was and wasn't doing was wrong. He's not in a good place, I understand this. I don't want to expose my daughter to his problems. He doesn't get it. I am tired of his threats, I've said what I can. He's been all talk lately, so I am filing for Child Support if he wants Visitations, it will be up to the court to decide. I just need help understanding what I am about to get myself into.
He is 25, I am 21. I went through hell and back to try and be with him. He was always a drug user, ended up on probation for it right after we found out we were pregnant. I thought he would change.. but there was no changing someone who was being as selfish a child-man as he.