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We live in Placerville, California and will move to Antelop, California soon.
My wife spends all of her time on the Internet, eating (out), buying CDs and fun things for herself, or sleeping. We have 11 yr old son, 7 yr old daughter. She does little or NO housework and spends almost no time with the children although she does not work, saying she's a "stay-at-home" mom. She has a college degree in communication and writes and speaks well and convincingly. She tells me in front of the children that she hates me, my family, the children. She even told the children and me she hoped "we'd drown" when we left for a swim one Sunday. She has a record of depression and manic behavior, seeing doctors and taking medications all her life.
I want to divorce, get custody and grant wife as much visitation as she wants. How can I prove that I should be their custodial parent in my "children's best interests"?
I spend 2-3 hours commuting to my 8 hour job as a programmer/analyst, do most of the shopping, cooking, cleaning and take the children with me to relatives each weekend. I spend all my time away from work with my children.
My wife sleeps most of the day and is up most nights making a racket that interfers with my sleep (and then my work performance suffers) and the children's sleep.
What do I have to do to convince the courts that her verbal abuse and neglect is detrimental to my children and therefore wife should NOT get custody? HELP me and my kids. I've kept this family together this far and can endure abuse longer if necessary but now I feel I can no longer subdue her rages and want a better quality life for my children and myself.
HELP... with any advice to prove I will be a better parent and should be given custody?
I have documents written by her describing her activities and life since childhood, her root family... everything one would want to know about a person. She wrote them on the PC which I have kept. I have journaled her actions since May 2001. My attorney read some of the documents and said the courts would find the evidence "soft" and not award me custody. So what does the "best interest of the child" mean in CALIFORNIA? What can I do to convince the courts that in my children's "best interest" their care should be with me?
My wife spends all of her time on the Internet, eating (out), buying CDs and fun things for herself, or sleeping. We have 11 yr old son, 7 yr old daughter. She does little or NO housework and spends almost no time with the children although she does not work, saying she's a "stay-at-home" mom. She has a college degree in communication and writes and speaks well and convincingly. She tells me in front of the children that she hates me, my family, the children. She even told the children and me she hoped "we'd drown" when we left for a swim one Sunday. She has a record of depression and manic behavior, seeing doctors and taking medications all her life.
I want to divorce, get custody and grant wife as much visitation as she wants. How can I prove that I should be their custodial parent in my "children's best interests"?
I spend 2-3 hours commuting to my 8 hour job as a programmer/analyst, do most of the shopping, cooking, cleaning and take the children with me to relatives each weekend. I spend all my time away from work with my children.
My wife sleeps most of the day and is up most nights making a racket that interfers with my sleep (and then my work performance suffers) and the children's sleep.
What do I have to do to convince the courts that her verbal abuse and neglect is detrimental to my children and therefore wife should NOT get custody? HELP me and my kids. I've kept this family together this far and can endure abuse longer if necessary but now I feel I can no longer subdue her rages and want a better quality life for my children and myself.
HELP... with any advice to prove I will be a better parent and should be given custody?
I have documents written by her describing her activities and life since childhood, her root family... everything one would want to know about a person. She wrote them on the PC which I have kept. I have journaled her actions since May 2001. My attorney read some of the documents and said the courts would find the evidence "soft" and not award me custody. So what does the "best interest of the child" mean in CALIFORNIA? What can I do to convince the courts that in my children's "best interest" their care should be with me?