Had enough being used....

[jesse121480]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Michigan

I borrowed my ex money to keep her out of jail, instead she used the money to go to the casino. She use to be on federal disability and than she started receiving benefits through her job she had, They didn't find her disabled under their opinion, So she is just getting benefits for her son. Is there anything I can do about this? I am tired of her screwing everyone over including me. Please help me.

 

[Zigner]

Sue her in small claims court for the return of your money. That doesn't mean you will be able to collect, but that's what you would need to do.

 

[jesse121480]

Sue her in small claims court for the return of your money. That doesn't mean you will be able to collect, but that's what you would need to do.

Thank you!

 

[commentator]

I gotta ask. If you gave her money to keep her out of jail, and she used it to go to the casino, why didn't she go to jail? Where is she now? And does her being on "federal disability" or "from her work" have something to do with what you want to do?

 

[jesse121480]

I gotta ask. If you gave her money to keep her out of jail, and she used it to go to the casino, why didn't she go to jail? Where is she now? And does her being on "federal disability" or "from her work" have something to do with what you want to do?

My ex is nothing but a liar.... She gives her sob stories and gets people to believe them so she can get what she wants... I heard you can't sue someone on disability or SSI. Her and her son were both on disability through the government, when she started getting disability through her job her son only get disability through the government now. Her work disability now dropped her because they didn't find her disable under their standards. Now she is just getting it for her son and not for her. She promised she wouldn't screw me over this time and I have been waiting for 4 months now and it is messing all my other bills up.. She refused to sign any letter for paying me back but she can be found using my debit card at the bank and going through the drive through taking money out of my account... The only true reason why I let her borrow it is because I don't want our son to be put in foster care well that was when I thought she was telling me the thuth about the jail lie.

 

[Zigner]

My ex is nothing but a liar.... She gives her sob stories and gets people to believe them so she can get what she wants... I heard you can't sue someone on disability or SSI. Her and her son were both on disability through the government, when she started getting disability through her job her son only get disability through the government now. Her work disability now dropped her because they didn't find her disable under their standards. Now she is just getting it for her son and not for her. She promised she wouldn't screw me over this time and I have been waiting for 4 months now and it is messing all my other bills up.. She refused to sign any letter for paying me back but she can be found using my debit card at the bank and going through the drive through taking money out of my account... The only true reason why I let her borrow it is because I don't want our son to be put in foster care well that was when I thought she was telling me the thuth about the jail lie.

How do you intend to prove this wasn't a gift to help support your (mutual) son?

 

[jesse121480]

How do you intend to prove this wasn't a gift to help support your (mutual) son?

He isn't my biological son.... I have no rights over him at all. Plus I am on SSI myself and I can't afford to lose $841

 

[Zigner]

He isn't my biological son.... I have no rights over him at all. Plus I am on SSI myself and I can't afford to lose $841

Then he's not "our son" - but the question still remains. How do you intend to prove these weren't gifts?

 

[jesse121480]

Then he's not "our son" - but the question still remains. How do you intend to prove these weren't gifts?

I raised him since he was 17 months old and he is 9. The only proof I have is text messages but I can't print them out or even request it through my phone company because they don't keep records of text messages.

 

[Isis1]

have you changed your bank information yet? requested a new card? new PIN?

how do you know she didn't go to jail? have you checked her criminal record?

how do you know she isn't receiving disability? did you go with her to her appointment?

 

[jesse121480]

have you changed your bank information yet? requested a new card? new PIN?

how do you know she didn't go to jail? have you checked her criminal record?

how do you know she isn't receiving disability? did you go with her to her appointment?

She was never on my account but the bank called me and asked me if it was ok if she took the money out.... I know she didn't go to jail because I am always or was always around her.... She went to the casino 2 days later after getting the money from me. I saw the letters and heard the phone call for her being cut off because she had it on speaker phone since she gets really crappy reception where she lives.... They told her she needs to see their Drs to get reapproved.

 

[commentator]

I suspect your ex is what you call "judgment proof" You could sue her, and you might get a judgment against her if you go to small claims court, (as someone points out, she's sure to say it was a gift, or in exchange for "favors" of some type, very hard for you to show proof otherwise) but even if you did, and you were successful in getting a decision in your favor, she's not going to pay the money back. She doesn't have it. Of course. She spent it.

She will always manage to spend the money before she pays you back. You got scammed. I bet it's not really the first time, either.

I would suggest rather that you break off all communication with this person who is obviously so destructive and is such a large part of your life. It's not like you didn't spend seven or eight years watching her in action, now you seem totally surprised she took advantage of you. And "our child" that you don't want to go into foster care isn't your child, he's her meal ticket. Accept this and move forward with your life. She's bad news.