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penni
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What is the name of your state? i live in michigan. I will try to be brief but this one is twisted one. And actually a two part question. My ex and i have been engaged for 9 yrs, we have lived exclusively with each outher all this time. We have 2 children. the first 2yrs were great we have great jobs then the company we both worked at closed,we found other jobs, with in the first month at the new job my (now) ex got hurt on the job, he was on workmans comp, and a lawsuit began, and lasted 6yrs in the meantime I continued to work (comp was 180.00 a wk for him)full time, give birth to 2children, and provide complete care for all 4of us (the ex's was a back injury) we got along well were always short of cash but we never debated it, we got along really well. Then the suit finally settled, comp settled at $30,000 and the independ settled at $100,000, after lawyer fees the ex received a total of $110,000. (that was 1yr ago to this month)the first week of receiving the money we went a bought 2 newer cars,(he bought a bravoda at $19,000 and I got a new yorker at $8,000) my ex said since my new vehicle costs much less then his that i could buy something else, now let me just say that i didnt want to spend any money I wanted to save or invest it, he wanted to enjoy it, that is why I bought a less expensive vehicle, but he prosisted so i decided since he was going to spend the money on me one way or another(he said that if i didnt pick out something he would just get me sonething on his own)so i picked out a $2,800 diamond ring thinking we could at least sell it in a pinch. We were currently renting a nice place in northern michigan near our friends and my family, when the money came in he got it in his head to move close to his family 4hrs away, i dint want to move so we started fighting, i told him if he needed a house of his own we could get one here, where the cost of living was half of the downstate,and I could keep my job and maybe he could look for one, one week he went to visit his sister and he found a house on Thursday, came to me and told me hewas buying it on Friday and we moved in on Sunday! ( he said he was moving with or without me so I moved) he didnt want to move everything so he sold our major appliances to neighbors and we bought new when we moved into the new place, he did put the new house in both our names, but all the cash from the settlement he put in a bank safety deposit box, with only he and his twin brother having keys to access it, this began the start of the end for us, he started changing, our relationship got worse, I got a job right away after the move and he didnt, 7months went by and he still wasnt working, he said the money was running out even though I was paying all the bills with my checks, so i just don't understand how that could be, but he insisted that we neede to sell the house and move back up north, i was happy to because i was miserable, i missed everyone. So we did, we moved back july 4th, 2weeks later out of the blue, he says he doesnt love and doesnt even think he can handle looking at me and trying to live a lie, shocked me because i idnt know we had come to this, but i was also relieved things hadnt felt right for a long while, so we sat down and decided to be civil, we made a list room by room to divide up 9yrs of life love and possessions, I didnt want much just my personal clothes the childrens clothes and toys, some of the cds,and we had alot of things in prs live dining roomsets and living room furnitures 4 tvs(i took one) but the big stuff he keep like a 52 in flat screen tv, valuable coinsets and antiques, 1500.00 washer and dryer, brand new pc and complete home office systems with it, the $2000.00 stereo system, gosh just everything, i was really heartsick so i just didnt fight him on anything, he said if i moved out quickly without a fuss he would give me $5,000 dollars to buy a moble home from my sister and help me set it up, he gave me the new stove and fridge because the trailer didnt have those, the rest was all being left with him, he didnt even let me take the childrens beds! he gave me 2 days to be out. So i did, he agreed to pay 100.00 a week for child support, ( he was working) So here it is 2months later, no childsupport, no money to set myself up or buy the trailer,and yesterday I get a summons and complaint stated that he is sueing me for the return of a$2,800.00 engagement ring(which it wasn't i still have my engagement ring and it costs 500.00) and he wants the return of the stove and refridge, he wants the couch and love seat set i have(one of our pairs) 2end tables, a 50.00 stainless steel knife set, and a 30.00 pr of binoculars. I couldn't believe it! He has since movied in with his mom and let me mention that when we sold the house he said we would put all the money from that in the bank and use it for bills, when i moved out he had withdrawn all the money and moved it to a private account, so i got nothing! So I would like to know how i can win this suit against him and counter sue for at least the amount he promised for the trailer and set up. And is it possible to file a seperate suit for some the settlement money he still has, I was the only worker for 7 yrs and everything that i left behind was purchased with my checks and my income tax returns, so why does he get to keep it all? I don't want to come across as a taker but I did provide for the family for all this time, is there a common law about this sort of thing? and even if he wins this suit, shouldn't i only owe him for half the value or less( because they did depreciate and I do at least half own them) Well i have to file my anser in aobut 20 days.....so any advise would help.....byt the way the county he filed the suit in, he doesnt even live in! arent you supposed to? ok so this wasnt brief, but i feel as though all of this should factor in....Thanks for your time~