Girlfriend gets driving with restricted license while driving my car

What is the name of your state? Colorado

What is the name of your state? Colorado

Ok so my girlfriend who is 16 (I'm 19...and no I'm not a sicko) was driving my car last night and at the moment only has her permit because of some deal with her parents. She left her house without her parents knowing, but we were out at 11:00, which is before curfew.

Anyways, I was following my buddy to a friends house and I decided to let her drive, since she really isnt a bad driver. My car is an 04' mazda 6, my name is on the car because I make the payments and I have full coverage insurance. So anyways, we come to a four way stop before getting onto the interstate, and my girl stops for a brief second and continues on like normal. Well it happens that we get pulled over for this, and we're left worried to ****.

The cop doesn't call my girlfriends parents, which first and foremost was most important, and she also (after waiting for about 20-30 minutes), issues my girlfriend, to my surprise, with driving with a restricted license, as opposed to driving without a license. So basically she can get her license on time, with the reduction of two points (I'm confused, from her permit or from her license??). Here's the catch, I feel pretty crappy about the whole situation, since I'm really in love with this girl and don't want to lose all the respect from her parents that I've gained, so I'd rather them not find out, because that's just what they need - an excuse to not like me. Because we were in the county, she can simply forge her parents signature, and mail the ticket and the money into the state department of revenue.

Our dilemma is this, it's a tossup between telling her parents a small lie about why she was out and with whom, and telling them about the violation. OR forging the signature and mailing it in without them knowing. Our concern is that when she does go to get her license this will be brought up.

Does anyone here know for sure if this would even be brought up if it was taken care of? She got hit with driving with a restricted license which carries a 2 point reduction.

I'd like advice from you who think you have good moral/legal/relational advice. Thanks!

[TheTWKid]

I'm not a legal expert, but I'd advise just telling her parents the truth. If at any time in the future they find out you hid information, and helped their own daughter hide information from them, whatever distrust or backlash you're worried about with telling them about the ticket - feel free to multiply it by 10 if the find out from someone other than you two. From experience, the people I trust most to be completely honest with me are those who have been prompt to inform me of things not-so-pleasant. You're looking at trying to avoid maybe a week of the parents cooling down over it by risking a lifetime of it.

I agree.

I'm just very unsure as to how her parents will react if they find out the straight up truth, knowing that their daughter snuck out. This is a really tough one. I really love this girl, and I want the very best for her. I have given her parents nothing but respect, and this is all I need - a reason for them to not trust me. Yes I know I was wrong, but ****ing **** this isn't quite fair. Hell, the reason we got stopped wasn't even legal, considering how our stop was completely legal.

[HomeGuru]

duplicate thread.

[TheTWKid]

Originally Posted by exsequor

I agree.

I'm just very unsure as to how her parents will react if they find out the straight up truth, knowing that their daughter snuck out. This is a really tough one. I really love this girl, and I want the very best for her. I have given her parents nothing but respect, and this is all I need - a reason for them to not trust me. Yes I know I was wrong, but ****ing **** this isn't quite fair. Hell, the reason we got stopped wasn't even legal, considering how our stop was completely legal.

I hope they'll understand. They may have bitter reactions, but even if they do get upset with you, they'll still trust you, if not more so. Just kinda try to think about the logic you're presenting yourself with - deceiving the parents to keep their trust. Too many things can happen that would turn everything backwards.

Thank you for the advice, we've still got a couple weeks to decide on exactly how to present this to them =P