Ya know that phrase, "Penny wise & pound foolish?" You're about to trip over it. You have specific goals, a significant asset to deal with, & getting things wrong could result in either the wrong person getting the asset or the right people paying thousands in income taxes. Furthermore, you keep asking general questions instead of giving specific facts. A good estate lawyer is way cheaper than a badly designed do-it-yourself gifting plan.
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