Stephen991
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What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Arizona
My mother died in December, and her third husband has been sitting on her belongings, doing absolutely nothing with them, in their house in Arizona for the last 5 months.
Unfortunately my mother left me her IRA and he and his family have been verbally abusive to me via email for the last 5 months as well. He doesn't comprehend that he is a third husband, and I am her only son, and its reasonable that she leave her money to her son.
As a result, I have become increasingly uncomfortable leaving literally everything of hers in his posession. He has the power to throw things out that he knows will be meaningful to me, and that makes me extremely frustrated. There are very important and sentimental things in that house like my original parents wedding certificate, her wedding dress, and other things that he knows I would want. I don't feel comfortable letting this antagonistic person with a grudge, who obviously could simply throw away things on a whim ... having complete posession of her belongings, while I am at the mercy of what he decides to give to me.
He only happened upon the scene (in her life) 9 years ago, at age 60. He's a newcomer to the entire family, but he has some issues with feeling that he is the only thing that mattered in her life. At her funeral, which I had to singlehandedly write because he was feeling too sorry for himself to care about giving her a proper memorial, he red-marked out all my writing on her life before him. I was not allowed to mention my father, where I came from, nor 90% of her life before him. He isn't an evil guy.
Just unbelievably misdirected in his understanding of his role in her life. Even when putting together the words for her headstone, which is supposed to be about her, and who she is ... he wrote "MY DARLING, MY WIFE, THE LOVE OF MY LIFE" across the front of it. Now every time I go there, I get to think about him, instead of her.
Its now nearly 6 months since my mom died and I haven't seen a single item of hers that should have gone to me. He keeps telling everyone he's "not ready" to go through her stuff, and he has told me I am "not welcome" in the house.
Do I have any legal recourse for getting a warrant or something to go in there, as my mothers son, and secure her belongings, load up a uhaul, and leave? I trust myself to give him what she would want him to have far more than I trust him to do the same for me at this point.
I just feel like her only blood relative should have some say.
My mother died in December, and her third husband has been sitting on her belongings, doing absolutely nothing with them, in their house in Arizona for the last 5 months.
Unfortunately my mother left me her IRA and he and his family have been verbally abusive to me via email for the last 5 months as well. He doesn't comprehend that he is a third husband, and I am her only son, and its reasonable that she leave her money to her son.
As a result, I have become increasingly uncomfortable leaving literally everything of hers in his posession. He has the power to throw things out that he knows will be meaningful to me, and that makes me extremely frustrated. There are very important and sentimental things in that house like my original parents wedding certificate, her wedding dress, and other things that he knows I would want. I don't feel comfortable letting this antagonistic person with a grudge, who obviously could simply throw away things on a whim ... having complete posession of her belongings, while I am at the mercy of what he decides to give to me.
He only happened upon the scene (in her life) 9 years ago, at age 60. He's a newcomer to the entire family, but he has some issues with feeling that he is the only thing that mattered in her life. At her funeral, which I had to singlehandedly write because he was feeling too sorry for himself to care about giving her a proper memorial, he red-marked out all my writing on her life before him. I was not allowed to mention my father, where I came from, nor 90% of her life before him. He isn't an evil guy.
Just unbelievably misdirected in his understanding of his role in her life. Even when putting together the words for her headstone, which is supposed to be about her, and who she is ... he wrote "MY DARLING, MY WIFE, THE LOVE OF MY LIFE" across the front of it. Now every time I go there, I get to think about him, instead of her.
Its now nearly 6 months since my mom died and I haven't seen a single item of hers that should have gone to me. He keeps telling everyone he's "not ready" to go through her stuff, and he has told me I am "not welcome" in the house.
Do I have any legal recourse for getting a warrant or something to go in there, as my mothers son, and secure her belongings, load up a uhaul, and leave? I trust myself to give him what she would want him to have far more than I trust him to do the same for me at this point.
I just feel like her only blood relative should have some say.