AleashaRae
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? IOWA
My dad is in really bad shape these days, cirrhosis of the liver, and we arent sure how much longer he really has left. He keeps saying he's going to get a will done but thus far hasnt done it or taken advantage of any of the prompts family has given him or offers to help him with it. Im afraid he might die before he gets one. He has verbally told me what he wants each of the four of us kids to have (he isnt married) and has said that he'd like to make me power of attorney. The only problem is that of my 3 younger siblings, one is 19 and mentally disabled, resides in staffed group living and has no ability to make his own financial decisions. He is also under the states guardianship currently. The other 2 are 16 and 17 years old.
If he were to die without a will who would be executer of estate? My main concern is that he has a 401k and a retirement account which is worth what i'd call a large sum of money. I of course would split the money 4 ways but im not sure how that would work #1 with my disabled sibling being under state gurdianship and #2 with my underages siblings. The 2 of them are terrible kids, steal his vehicles, never have had jobs, drink, smoke pot, run around at all hours of the night, break curfew, ignore his phone calls and dont come home for days at a time, fail classes and throw parties on our farm when no ones there. They have not grown up with the dad that i did, because of how sick he's gotten due to the fall out of his divorce with their mother. I know they deserve equal parts of the money as they are his children too...but can you put it into a trust or something until they're like 25? I would hate to see them blow hundreds of thousands of dollars on drugs, partying and laziness because neither of them want to work if they were to get it at say age 18.
If possible, i want them to have to live on their own and learn to be reliable and responsible before they get that kind of money and end up throwing it all away and regreting it later-or worse, getting into even bigger trouble with buying the wrong things, like drugs and booze.
My dad is in really bad shape these days, cirrhosis of the liver, and we arent sure how much longer he really has left. He keeps saying he's going to get a will done but thus far hasnt done it or taken advantage of any of the prompts family has given him or offers to help him with it. Im afraid he might die before he gets one. He has verbally told me what he wants each of the four of us kids to have (he isnt married) and has said that he'd like to make me power of attorney. The only problem is that of my 3 younger siblings, one is 19 and mentally disabled, resides in staffed group living and has no ability to make his own financial decisions. He is also under the states guardianship currently. The other 2 are 16 and 17 years old.
If he were to die without a will who would be executer of estate? My main concern is that he has a 401k and a retirement account which is worth what i'd call a large sum of money. I of course would split the money 4 ways but im not sure how that would work #1 with my disabled sibling being under state gurdianship and #2 with my underages siblings. The 2 of them are terrible kids, steal his vehicles, never have had jobs, drink, smoke pot, run around at all hours of the night, break curfew, ignore his phone calls and dont come home for days at a time, fail classes and throw parties on our farm when no ones there. They have not grown up with the dad that i did, because of how sick he's gotten due to the fall out of his divorce with their mother. I know they deserve equal parts of the money as they are his children too...but can you put it into a trust or something until they're like 25? I would hate to see them blow hundreds of thousands of dollars on drugs, partying and laziness because neither of them want to work if they were to get it at say age 18.
If possible, i want them to have to live on their own and learn to be reliable and responsible before they get that kind of money and end up throwing it all away and regreting it later-or worse, getting into even bigger trouble with buying the wrong things, like drugs and booze.