nawtynotions
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?
I live in Texas
Here is my question. My mother passed away in Feb 08. She was and had been terminally ill with cancer and on dialysis for some time. My brother and myself were the executors of her simple will. There was no property to divide, and no money to be inherited, just her personal effects. Three days before I was scheduled to leave Iowa to come back to my homestate of Texas, they told us that my mom had at least 6 months to live yet. I needed to come back to Texas as my husband was having surgery and I was sick. I had been in Iowa with my mom for over a month by then. I left Iowa and came back home for his surgery etc and was going to go back with my mom but she passed away 2 days after I left and I could not make it back in time. My brother and my daughter who also lives in Iowa made the funeral arrangements etc and all my moms kids paid their share on her funeral costs. The problem is this, my brother is angry because I was not there when my mom passed away so now he is withholding her ashes from us so we cannot bury her properly. He is so angry at me for not being there that he told me I was not even welcome to come to her graveside services nor view her ashes. Before I left I transferrred my mothers bank account into my brothers name so he could handle her money. Does he have the right to not allow me to attend her funeral or the right not to bury her ashes in the plot she bought for this purpose? I have the cemetary deed for her lots, her headstone is in place and all my family knew her wishes to be buried there. She gave me the cemetary deed for her lots many years ago when she bought them. In fact we purchased hers and mine at the same time. We were supposed to be buried next to one another. I want to know if or how I can make him bury her like she asked me to do. There are 4 of us kids, and he is not permitting me and my one sister anything, including to burying her. Him and my other sister have taken control over that and told us we were not welcome there. So now there sits an empty plot with a brand new headstone on it and he is keeping my moms ashes because of his anger.
I live in Texas
Here is my question. My mother passed away in Feb 08. She was and had been terminally ill with cancer and on dialysis for some time. My brother and myself were the executors of her simple will. There was no property to divide, and no money to be inherited, just her personal effects. Three days before I was scheduled to leave Iowa to come back to my homestate of Texas, they told us that my mom had at least 6 months to live yet. I needed to come back to Texas as my husband was having surgery and I was sick. I had been in Iowa with my mom for over a month by then. I left Iowa and came back home for his surgery etc and was going to go back with my mom but she passed away 2 days after I left and I could not make it back in time. My brother and my daughter who also lives in Iowa made the funeral arrangements etc and all my moms kids paid their share on her funeral costs. The problem is this, my brother is angry because I was not there when my mom passed away so now he is withholding her ashes from us so we cannot bury her properly. He is so angry at me for not being there that he told me I was not even welcome to come to her graveside services nor view her ashes. Before I left I transferrred my mothers bank account into my brothers name so he could handle her money. Does he have the right to not allow me to attend her funeral or the right not to bury her ashes in the plot she bought for this purpose? I have the cemetary deed for her lots, her headstone is in place and all my family knew her wishes to be buried there. She gave me the cemetary deed for her lots many years ago when she bought them. In fact we purchased hers and mine at the same time. We were supposed to be buried next to one another. I want to know if or how I can make him bury her like she asked me to do. There are 4 of us kids, and he is not permitting me and my one sister anything, including to burying her. Him and my other sister have taken control over that and told us we were not welcome there. So now there sits an empty plot with a brand new headstone on it and he is keeping my moms ashes because of his anger.