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Kansas....Dad owned 2 plots in cemetary. My grandparents were cremated decades ago and their urns buried in one of the plots. They have a "shared headstone" bought by Dad. Dad died last year. He wrote down his wishes as to his memorial service and that he should be cremated and his ashes mixed with those of his parents in the plot containing their urns. He also wrote of how he wanted his "stone" to read. He also wrote that his wife could "join" his ashes if she so desired, or be buried in the 2nd plot. We (his children) carried out his wishes. Now his wife (our stepmother) wants to erect a "grander" stone of mammoth proportions than the one we provided---this would also very much overshadow his parent's stone. Does she have the legal right to do so?