mommyreeves
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? North Carolina.
My mother passed away after about 4.5 months in the hospital due to liver failure. Prior to her even going into the hospital (summer of 2009) she told me that if anything ever happened to her, she wanted to make sure I immediately went to get her "good" jewelry. (She had quite a bit). She said for me to go through what I wanted and save out three pieces to give to the twin step-granddaughters (age 9) and the other step-granddaughter, who is 6. She said for me to hold onto them until they were of responsible age.
So, the day after the funeral, I went and got the jewelry and didn't say anythingb to my dad (well, step-dad until he adopted me in 2000).
Last Friday (a week after I got the jewelry) I told him and he had a fit. I told him that that was her "spoken" wishes...(I could've sworn that she wrote it down somewhere, but I've yet to find it). So, today, when I went to see dad, I just gave him the jewelry and told himn that it WAS mom's wishes but he could just do with what he wanted to do with it b/c I am not for conflict....especially after not only losing my mother, but my best friend.
I asked him for ONE specific ring (even though she made it VERY clear to me that she wanted me to have it all and to decide who got the three other pieces between the granddaughters). He said "well, I just don't know about that" and he also said that "it wasn't my place to distribute the jewelry and HE would be the one to decide who got what." WTHeck? I'm so torn up about this b/c this whole past year (2009) he didn't treat my mother good AT ALL!
I don't know where the letter is that she wrote, if there is one or if she was just saying it in passing type of thing. The only other thing is is that if she went and changed it in the will, I basically don't have a chance, do I?
We haven't even gone for the reading of the will but I'm just so confused as to why a DAD would do this to his daughter! I'm just so angry at him b/c I just can't see a dad doing this (if he was a biological father). UGHHH, PLEASE HELP!
My mother passed away after about 4.5 months in the hospital due to liver failure. Prior to her even going into the hospital (summer of 2009) she told me that if anything ever happened to her, she wanted to make sure I immediately went to get her "good" jewelry. (She had quite a bit). She said for me to go through what I wanted and save out three pieces to give to the twin step-granddaughters (age 9) and the other step-granddaughter, who is 6. She said for me to hold onto them until they were of responsible age.
So, the day after the funeral, I went and got the jewelry and didn't say anythingb to my dad (well, step-dad until he adopted me in 2000).
Last Friday (a week after I got the jewelry) I told him and he had a fit. I told him that that was her "spoken" wishes...(I could've sworn that she wrote it down somewhere, but I've yet to find it). So, today, when I went to see dad, I just gave him the jewelry and told himn that it WAS mom's wishes but he could just do with what he wanted to do with it b/c I am not for conflict....especially after not only losing my mother, but my best friend.
I asked him for ONE specific ring (even though she made it VERY clear to me that she wanted me to have it all and to decide who got the three other pieces between the granddaughters). He said "well, I just don't know about that" and he also said that "it wasn't my place to distribute the jewelry and HE would be the one to decide who got what." WTHeck? I'm so torn up about this b/c this whole past year (2009) he didn't treat my mother good AT ALL!
I don't know where the letter is that she wrote, if there is one or if she was just saying it in passing type of thing. The only other thing is is that if she went and changed it in the will, I basically don't have a chance, do I?
We haven't even gone for the reading of the will but I'm just so confused as to why a DAD would do this to his daughter! I'm just so angry at him b/c I just can't see a dad doing this (if he was a biological father). UGHHH, PLEASE HELP!