What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? California
Since this is anonymous, I want to start off by saying my Grandparents died in Wyoming when my Mom was 12 and left her andmy Aunt millions of dollars worth of land, propertyand oil and gas royalties. My mom has rarely worked a day in her life and I'm not here to tarnish, but the fact is she is a full blown Alcoholic, spends her money excessively on herself, past boyfriends, and now her current husband.I read my Grandparents will (which i was a part of even though I wasn't born), and my Aunt confirmed ther was an irrevocable trust. My Grandparents wishes weemed to have been where wealth remained in the family generation after generation.
Here is my dilema. I was "rescued" by my dad from my mom at the age of 12 because my half brother and I were abused and neglected. While she was sailing in Newport Beach, we were left alone and occassionally the PG&E was shut off and we were left without food, because my mom did not eat much and was not concerned with our nutrition. One day in her drunken rage hitting me in the face with a belt buckle, I ran out of the house doe
wn the hill amd called my Dad. i toldhim the truth of what was happening and he immediately picked me up. Wwe went back to the house and he told hr he was taking me and my mom shrugged her shoulders.
I had a fruitful life with my dad. He savwd me. He too was wealthy and did spoil me but taught me a lot of responsibility. I was lucky. I went to a private catholic school, excelled and went off to UC Riverside. On my 18th birthday my mom called me and said she had a gift, surprise, how much she missed me and eanted to come to my graduation. What more can an 18 year old want?? Peace and a true relationship with mommy??? Of course! I still had resentment and deeply wounded scars, but I gave in.We met, she cried, she told me how much she has grown and learned through therapy....blah blah bla...she offered to drivr me to college and take me shopping for all my necesseties. I was in heaven. my life seemed great.
About a year later she sent me some documents via UPS and said they were urgent, She wanted me to get them notarized and said, "Honey, your Grandparents left you some money and I want to invest it for you while your at school, so by the time you finish, you'll have a nest egg set up for yourself and you can buy a home, etc" I trusted what she said, did what she said, and sent off the docs. Things changed after that I hheard less from her, fell into my boyfriend (who is now my husband) and we started a family. I was 19 and on my own. I made a grown up choice and had to face responsibilities. Managing a son, then 2 made it too hard to continue school on our budget. This was in 1992.
I am proud to say my oldest is joining the Coast Guard and I have 3 beautiful children. I suffered a lot, but back to the dilema. i questioned my mother about the document and she said "I don't know what you;re talking about". She lives a cushy life with her husband and owns multiple properties in Marin County, I was her Realtor and sold one for her which took 2 years to sell in a declining market. I suspect I made HER Trustee of my irrevocible trust. I notarized everything in Riverside...can't Remember where,but the papers were filed in Alameda County. Where do i start? If she is the Trustee, Is she resonsible for telling me what was in there and acccount for any money she my have used? Do I need to hire an attorney? thank you .
Since this is anonymous, I want to start off by saying my Grandparents died in Wyoming when my Mom was 12 and left her andmy Aunt millions of dollars worth of land, propertyand oil and gas royalties. My mom has rarely worked a day in her life and I'm not here to tarnish, but the fact is she is a full blown Alcoholic, spends her money excessively on herself, past boyfriends, and now her current husband.I read my Grandparents will (which i was a part of even though I wasn't born), and my Aunt confirmed ther was an irrevocable trust. My Grandparents wishes weemed to have been where wealth remained in the family generation after generation.
Here is my dilema. I was "rescued" by my dad from my mom at the age of 12 because my half brother and I were abused and neglected. While she was sailing in Newport Beach, we were left alone and occassionally the PG&E was shut off and we were left without food, because my mom did not eat much and was not concerned with our nutrition. One day in her drunken rage hitting me in the face with a belt buckle, I ran out of the house doe
wn the hill amd called my Dad. i toldhim the truth of what was happening and he immediately picked me up. Wwe went back to the house and he told hr he was taking me and my mom shrugged her shoulders.
I had a fruitful life with my dad. He savwd me. He too was wealthy and did spoil me but taught me a lot of responsibility. I was lucky. I went to a private catholic school, excelled and went off to UC Riverside. On my 18th birthday my mom called me and said she had a gift, surprise, how much she missed me and eanted to come to my graduation. What more can an 18 year old want?? Peace and a true relationship with mommy??? Of course! I still had resentment and deeply wounded scars, but I gave in.We met, she cried, she told me how much she has grown and learned through therapy....blah blah bla...she offered to drivr me to college and take me shopping for all my necesseties. I was in heaven. my life seemed great.
About a year later she sent me some documents via UPS and said they were urgent, She wanted me to get them notarized and said, "Honey, your Grandparents left you some money and I want to invest it for you while your at school, so by the time you finish, you'll have a nest egg set up for yourself and you can buy a home, etc" I trusted what she said, did what she said, and sent off the docs. Things changed after that I hheard less from her, fell into my boyfriend (who is now my husband) and we started a family. I was 19 and on my own. I made a grown up choice and had to face responsibilities. Managing a son, then 2 made it too hard to continue school on our budget. This was in 1992.
I am proud to say my oldest is joining the Coast Guard and I have 3 beautiful children. I suffered a lot, but back to the dilema. i questioned my mother about the document and she said "I don't know what you;re talking about". She lives a cushy life with her husband and owns multiple properties in Marin County, I was her Realtor and sold one for her which took 2 years to sell in a declining market. I suspect I made HER Trustee of my irrevocible trust. I notarized everything in Riverside...can't Remember where,but the papers were filed in Alameda County. Where do i start? If she is the Trustee, Is she resonsible for telling me what was in there and acccount for any money she my have used? Do I need to hire an attorney? thank you .