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DiAnnCort
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What is the name of your state? Pennsylvania
My husband & I were married for 19 years. When I divorced him in 1990 he moved in with another woman who had never been married & never had children. My husband alienated himself from his son & daughter during this time. This woman and my ex broke up in 1997. He moved out and met another woman whom he was with for approx 3 years. During this time he started to once again communicate with our children and became very close to them again. Even starting coming to grandchildrens birthday parties. He & I were cordial. I was extremely happy that he was once again close with his children. My son even lived with him for a short time. He and the second lady split up and he was by himself for approx a year and met yet another woman. My ex husband, the new lady and my children were all close.
In August 2003, my ex passed away suddenly through the night of a hear attack (he was only 53). My children immediately started to make plans for his funeral and in doing so went to his place of employment (US Postal). He was postmaster. They were devastated to learn that my ex husband had put this 1st lady on as beneficiary of his life insurance and 401K (approx $200,000) immediately upon moving in with her.
My children inherited his debt of a house/car/credit cards and funeral bill but no money. I am sure him being 53, he just never got around to changing the beneficiaries on these. My question.. Is there anything they can do at this time?? I know that a husband or wife is null and void at the time of a divorce with insurance beneficiary but wouldn't the same apply for an ex girlfriend is they have not had the same address for 5 or 6 years. My heart aches for our children who are left with a lot of debt and the disappointment of being disinherited. I truly do not think that was my husband's intention. Any thoughts?? Is there anything they can do??
Thank you
Diane
My husband & I were married for 19 years. When I divorced him in 1990 he moved in with another woman who had never been married & never had children. My husband alienated himself from his son & daughter during this time. This woman and my ex broke up in 1997. He moved out and met another woman whom he was with for approx 3 years. During this time he started to once again communicate with our children and became very close to them again. Even starting coming to grandchildrens birthday parties. He & I were cordial. I was extremely happy that he was once again close with his children. My son even lived with him for a short time. He and the second lady split up and he was by himself for approx a year and met yet another woman. My ex husband, the new lady and my children were all close.
In August 2003, my ex passed away suddenly through the night of a hear attack (he was only 53). My children immediately started to make plans for his funeral and in doing so went to his place of employment (US Postal). He was postmaster. They were devastated to learn that my ex husband had put this 1st lady on as beneficiary of his life insurance and 401K (approx $200,000) immediately upon moving in with her.
My children inherited his debt of a house/car/credit cards and funeral bill but no money. I am sure him being 53, he just never got around to changing the beneficiaries on these. My question.. Is there anything they can do at this time?? I know that a husband or wife is null and void at the time of a divorce with insurance beneficiary but wouldn't the same apply for an ex girlfriend is they have not had the same address for 5 or 6 years. My heart aches for our children who are left with a lot of debt and the disappointment of being disinherited. I truly do not think that was my husband's intention. Any thoughts?? Is there anything they can do??
Thank you
Diane
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