hi tq,
it is nice to have discussions with you without it being a war - LOL.
1) i am not sure why you would preface your sentence with "once the trust becomes irrevocable", since the beneficiary and trustee are typically the same while it is revocable.
but discussing irrevocable trusts,
2) i did not understand what you meant by saying the disappearance of the trust if a beneficiary has such power. i dont get the correlation. are you referring to the beneficiary spending everything in the trust ? or were you talking about the disappearance of the trust document ?
3) i would be happy to discuss tax and other issues if you have one that you would like to bring forth.
4) regarding the grantor - i think i can come up with more reasons why the grantor would want the beneficiary to have say-so over the trustee, than vice versa.
the grantor could have concerns about his kid's ability to make financial decisions himself, which is why he might have someone other than his kid (beneficiary) be the trustee.
but he might also realize that it is not a good idea to have someone else with complete say-so. after all, the property is owned by the beneficiary, since he is the beneficial owner of the trust.
when i talk to people, they very much like the idea of knowing that a trustee, who has no real ownership in the property, is able to be replaced by the owners, should the need arise.
3) i cant say for sure how "usual" the clause is. but i did say that it is not "uncommon". i realize that both usual and uncommon are somewhat general terms. so i simply suggested that the op at least look at those areas in the trust to discern what is what.
4) if i was a parent, i would choose to opt on the side of the fence of my child. i would rather him have too much power, than not enough. i would never want a trustee to have absolute power. to me, that just gives the trustee too much of a green light to steal.
5) if you recall, i tend to like trusts that hang on to the principal, and distribute the income to the benes. in this way, it sort of mimics a retirement plan, and provides the security of some income to the bene for his lifetime.
6) as you say, it would depend on the goals of the grantor. but i think most grantors would tend to side with their benes having some say-so. by making someone else the trustee, the grantor has already placed some limitations on what the bene can do. allowing the bene to at least replace one trustee with another seems like a fairly decent compromise ?