mrsschlesner
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Kentucky is the applicable state for this question.
Approximately 10 years ago we had a family meeting and I remember my father telling us that he had his will set up such that if he died first, everything would go to his wife (my stepmother) and that it would come to us (his 3 children) when his wife died or if they died at the same time.
At that time I didn't question this setup, I guess because I couldn't imagine either one of them being gone, let alone both of them and I knew absolutely nothing about wills, inheritances, etc. As I remember, neither one of my siblings questioned it either.
My father died suddenly on June 2, 2008, and now I find myself with questions about how this all is/was set up and why it is the way it is. I don't feel I can ask my stepmother or siblings these questions without creating bad feelings and possibly making things worse for everyone involved.
Following are my concerns:
1. My dad died of unknown causes and I don't understand why no autopsy was done. He was cremated and that was that. So now all we have are possibilites and assumptions to go on.
2. The will was never read. Shouldn't it at least have been read to the family?
3. I've realized now that given this situation, our inheritances are now in the hands of a person who is no longer related to us in any way, who is only 14 years older than myself, and who may move away, lose touch, remarry, spend all the money, change the whole setup, or basically whatever she wants to do and my siblings and I may never see any of our birthrights ever in our lifetimes.
Does any of this sound strange or "not right" to you? Is there any way to get the answers I am looking for without causing family upset (unless of course there is in fact something wrong going on)? I haven't spoken to anyone else in my family about my feelings and questions about this, but I can't seem to get past the concerns I have. What advice, knowledge, wisdom, or at least insight can you give me?
I live in Wisconsin (54558) but the rest of my family lives in Kentucky (40601). That is where my father died. He had lived there since 1978.What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?
Approximately 10 years ago we had a family meeting and I remember my father telling us that he had his will set up such that if he died first, everything would go to his wife (my stepmother) and that it would come to us (his 3 children) when his wife died or if they died at the same time.
At that time I didn't question this setup, I guess because I couldn't imagine either one of them being gone, let alone both of them and I knew absolutely nothing about wills, inheritances, etc. As I remember, neither one of my siblings questioned it either.
My father died suddenly on June 2, 2008, and now I find myself with questions about how this all is/was set up and why it is the way it is. I don't feel I can ask my stepmother or siblings these questions without creating bad feelings and possibly making things worse for everyone involved.
Following are my concerns:
1. My dad died of unknown causes and I don't understand why no autopsy was done. He was cremated and that was that. So now all we have are possibilites and assumptions to go on.
2. The will was never read. Shouldn't it at least have been read to the family?
3. I've realized now that given this situation, our inheritances are now in the hands of a person who is no longer related to us in any way, who is only 14 years older than myself, and who may move away, lose touch, remarry, spend all the money, change the whole setup, or basically whatever she wants to do and my siblings and I may never see any of our birthrights ever in our lifetimes.
Does any of this sound strange or "not right" to you? Is there any way to get the answers I am looking for without causing family upset (unless of course there is in fact something wrong going on)? I haven't spoken to anyone else in my family about my feelings and questions about this, but I can't seem to get past the concerns I have. What advice, knowledge, wisdom, or at least insight can you give me?
I live in Wisconsin (54558) but the rest of my family lives in Kentucky (40601). That is where my father died. He had lived there since 1978.What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?