Glitterstorm
Junior Member
Nebraska
I was adopted when I was 9 years old. My stepfather was emotionally and physically abusive. I am now 42 and recently located my bio-father and am beginning to form a father/daughter relationship with him, which I NEVER had with my stepfather (adoptive father). My relationship with mother is complicated because she refuses to admit there was any abuse and thinks my bio-dad is the devil and my stepfather is perfect...
Basically, my problem is that no longer want my adoptive-dad (stepfather) on my birth certificate. However, I really don't feel it's anyone's business now that I'm an adult.
I have a few questions and I apologize in advance, I just don't know where to start...
1. Is there a way to simply reverse the adoption and have my original birth certificate restored with my bio-dad's name listed? If so, would my mother/stepfather be notified?
2. If reversal is not possible, could I do an adult adoption and have my bio-dad adopt me in order to basically restore my original birth certificate? If so, again, would anyone be notified?
3. Is it possible to eliminate a father altogether as neither of them honestly deserve to be called that... leave my mother's name and change my name legally to her maiden name? This seems convoluted but would be my dream outcome.
Thank you for reading and thank you in advance for any help/suggestions. I'm truly lost.
I was adopted when I was 9 years old. My stepfather was emotionally and physically abusive. I am now 42 and recently located my bio-father and am beginning to form a father/daughter relationship with him, which I NEVER had with my stepfather (adoptive father). My relationship with mother is complicated because she refuses to admit there was any abuse and thinks my bio-dad is the devil and my stepfather is perfect...
Basically, my problem is that no longer want my adoptive-dad (stepfather) on my birth certificate. However, I really don't feel it's anyone's business now that I'm an adult.
I have a few questions and I apologize in advance, I just don't know where to start...
1. Is there a way to simply reverse the adoption and have my original birth certificate restored with my bio-dad's name listed? If so, would my mother/stepfather be notified?
2. If reversal is not possible, could I do an adult adoption and have my bio-dad adopt me in order to basically restore my original birth certificate? If so, again, would anyone be notified?
3. Is it possible to eliminate a father altogether as neither of them honestly deserve to be called that... leave my mother's name and change my name legally to her maiden name? This seems convoluted but would be my dream outcome.
Thank you for reading and thank you in advance for any help/suggestions. I'm truly lost.