Hello,
I provide spousal and child support to ex wife and 14 year old daughter (joint legal custody). The home court for the custody and divorce orders is Fairfax County Virginia (where I live). I allowed ex to temporarily move to CA to take of sick father 3 years ago. She never moved back. I won new order in VA court 12 months ago clarifying visitation (regular visits and communication) but allowing them to stay in CA. She immediately violated that and then suddenly disappeared (roughly 8 months ago). I set up hearing in Santa Cruz Superior court (where I knew they last lived) to enforce the out-of-state custody order. This required a personal service of ex wife. I hired a PI who last week was able to find ex's auto and trailer. However, when going to serve her, the trailer park management office informed the PI that her car trailer and just being kept in storage, and ex wife left them no forwarding address.
So.. no state or court can help me at this time. I have been doing all this pro se for the past three years and have no more money to spend for PIs or attorneys. I want to simply cut off all spousal and custody payments and wait for them to presumably show up as they run out of means to support themselves (i.e., my money). I have dutifully been making all payments (in spite of her numerous violations) up until now.
Is there a legal process for putting this money in escrow or something in VA so that she does not come out and accuse me of violating the terms of support? I am fine with going through the VA court system for this but don't know what a process might be. Grateful for any advise/guidance.
Thank you.
I provide spousal and child support to ex wife and 14 year old daughter (joint legal custody). The home court for the custody and divorce orders is Fairfax County Virginia (where I live). I allowed ex to temporarily move to CA to take of sick father 3 years ago. She never moved back. I won new order in VA court 12 months ago clarifying visitation (regular visits and communication) but allowing them to stay in CA. She immediately violated that and then suddenly disappeared (roughly 8 months ago). I set up hearing in Santa Cruz Superior court (where I knew they last lived) to enforce the out-of-state custody order. This required a personal service of ex wife. I hired a PI who last week was able to find ex's auto and trailer. However, when going to serve her, the trailer park management office informed the PI that her car trailer and just being kept in storage, and ex wife left them no forwarding address.
So.. no state or court can help me at this time. I have been doing all this pro se for the past three years and have no more money to spend for PIs or attorneys. I want to simply cut off all spousal and custody payments and wait for them to presumably show up as they run out of means to support themselves (i.e., my money). I have dutifully been making all payments (in spite of her numerous violations) up until now.
Is there a legal process for putting this money in escrow or something in VA so that she does not come out and accuse me of violating the terms of support? I am fine with going through the VA court system for this but don't know what a process might be. Grateful for any advise/guidance.
Thank you.