Jyllian Ruby
Junior Member
My boyfriend has two children ages 7 & 9 years from a previous relationship of ten years. They were never married. Now that they're no longer together they have split custody and try to stick to a set visitation schedule. The dad(my bf) has a stable home and job and the kids go to schools based on his residence. The ex is not stable financially and for the past week doesn't have a consistent place to stay for herself and the kids when they're with her on "her days." He told me last night that he ex is going to stay at his place while things get situated bc he wants the kids to stay with him full time at least while the ex can figure out a more stable living situation for herself, but somehow he feels like he is taking the kids away from their mother which I tell him he isn't doing. And so bc he's a people-pleaser he is allowing the ex to stay at his house. Which I'm not in support of no matter how much I understand that his children come first. He is just so manipulate by the ex and I see it but he doesn't. Can anyone help provide some sound judgment calls and any advice for him for me as to what he can do or what's the best thing for him to be doing in this hopefully very temporary situation?! Please bc it's going to end up hurting my own relationship with my bf and all I want to do is be supportive and not really let my emotions get in the way of staying focused on what's most important which is these kids and keeping their life stable.