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boomersmom
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Ohio
Long Story, Short Version:
Divorced in '99; was named CP of 2 kids (now 10 & 12); ex & I agreed on very liberal parenting schedule (about 50/50); Ex is remarried, I am remarried. No problems until...
My current husband was charged last summer with GSI regarding the child of a former friend of mine, who I'd been babysitting. Without going into specifics, I know without any doubt that what the child claims is untrue. (This case has not yet gone to trial).
When my Ex learned about the allegations against my husband, he filed for and was awarded emergency custody based on the fact that I believe my husband is innocent. I am permitted to see the kids on weekends, provided that they have no contact with my DH or any member of his family - including my stepson, who we have custody of.
I've been through 10 months of being viewed by the court as a piece of crap, because everyone, including the family court, seems to disregard the constitutional guarantee of presumtion of innocence.
The court-appointed parenting specialist performed a full investigation and recommended that the court not make a decision until my husband's case was finished. However, his trial has been delayed several times (two judges retired, the state offered a plea bargain, etc.) and the family court judge denied my motion for continuance.
I'm going in to court on Tuesday to fight to retain custody of my kids. I'm acting pro se, because every available penny has gone to my husband's legal fund.
I understand that the family court's first job is to protect the interests of the children, but the judge has already told me that no matter what happens in my husband's case, she can still forbid me to allow him around my kids.
My question is: doesn't the Court have a responsibility to presume innocence? Why is it that they can punish me because I didn't throw my husband out of the house as soon as this other child made an accusation? I KNOW the kid is lying...beyond any doubt...but everyone looks at me like I'm some kind of "stand by your man" kinda chick...
Any insight you can offer would be helpful. I've got to try and figure out how to make the judge understand that it isn't just my "belief" that my husband is innocent, it is my firsthand knowledge.
Long Story, Short Version:
Divorced in '99; was named CP of 2 kids (now 10 & 12); ex & I agreed on very liberal parenting schedule (about 50/50); Ex is remarried, I am remarried. No problems until...
My current husband was charged last summer with GSI regarding the child of a former friend of mine, who I'd been babysitting. Without going into specifics, I know without any doubt that what the child claims is untrue. (This case has not yet gone to trial).
When my Ex learned about the allegations against my husband, he filed for and was awarded emergency custody based on the fact that I believe my husband is innocent. I am permitted to see the kids on weekends, provided that they have no contact with my DH or any member of his family - including my stepson, who we have custody of.
I've been through 10 months of being viewed by the court as a piece of crap, because everyone, including the family court, seems to disregard the constitutional guarantee of presumtion of innocence.
The court-appointed parenting specialist performed a full investigation and recommended that the court not make a decision until my husband's case was finished. However, his trial has been delayed several times (two judges retired, the state offered a plea bargain, etc.) and the family court judge denied my motion for continuance.
I'm going in to court on Tuesday to fight to retain custody of my kids. I'm acting pro se, because every available penny has gone to my husband's legal fund.
I understand that the family court's first job is to protect the interests of the children, but the judge has already told me that no matter what happens in my husband's case, she can still forbid me to allow him around my kids.
My question is: doesn't the Court have a responsibility to presume innocence? Why is it that they can punish me because I didn't throw my husband out of the house as soon as this other child made an accusation? I KNOW the kid is lying...beyond any doubt...but everyone looks at me like I'm some kind of "stand by your man" kinda chick...
Any insight you can offer would be helpful. I've got to try and figure out how to make the judge understand that it isn't just my "belief" that my husband is innocent, it is my firsthand knowledge.