Please help. I pay support and my son lives with me???

[justasmuck]

She lives in Wisconsin. My son and I live in Illinois.

I’ll try to keep this to short and to the point.

My son lived with me for 2 ½ years. Then I signed over primary placement to his mother. He lived there about 6 months. It didn’t work out. She wrote and signed a letter stating that she now gives him permission to live with me and that I can have primary placement again. He is now living with me and starts in his new school on Jan. 3rd. The problem is she refuses to sign the “Motion to Change Court Ordered Custody or Placement” that I provided to her. It reverses the placement order and stops my support payments. She says she wants support to continue until an arrears of $650 is paid. She also does not agree to visitation. She wants to “see him when she can”, in other words not much. I could barely survive when I lived alone, now I am supposed to pay her and provide for my son. I don’t know what to do. I am more than broke. Please help with your suggestions and thank you.

 

[Isis1]

Is all this filed with the court?

Pay off your arrears. File for child support against mom. You don't need her permission to do that.

 

[justasmuck]

She didn't sign the “Motion to Change Court Ordered Custody or Placement”, so nothing has been filed. I would pay the arrears, but I don't even know how we will survive right now on my extremely tight budget and paying her too. My son is 14, bigger than me and eats twice as much. Like I said, I don't know what to do.

 

[Isis1]

She didn't sign the “Motion to Change Court Ordered Custody or Placement”, so nothing has been filed. I would pay the arrears, but I don't even know how we will survive right now on my extremely tight budget and paying her too. My son is 14, bigger than me and eats twice as much. Like I said, I don't know what to do.

Then you will have to file your own motion to the court. She doesn't have to stipulate. Stop waiting for her. Your arrears are still due. Nothing will make that go away until you pay it off. What is the order for paying off the arrears? As opposed to the actual child support amount?

Is ANY of this filed with the court?

 

[Perky]

Is ANY of this filed with the court?

...And if so, which court? Illinois or Wisconsin?

 

[CSO286]

Then you will have to file your own motion to the court. She doesn't have to stipulate. Stop waiting for her. Your arrears are still due. Nothing will make that go away until you pay it off. What is the order for paying off the arrears? As opposed to the actual child support amount?

Is ANY of this filed with the court?

And CURRENT SUPPORT can continue charging until there is a new order for custody and child support.

Some counties/states (I've seen it both ways in my state alone) will not end current charging unless there is a new court order OR the custodial parent (According to the controlling court order) contacts them to notify them otherwise.

File for change in custody---she doesn't need to sign your stip.

Once CSED is notified of the change in custody then you can be sure that ongoing support will no longer be charged and in some locales, the payment on arrears is usually slightly less than the current support obligation was.